I have an almost 16 year old daughter. She has a MySpace account and several emails as well as AIM IMing account. Last year she started being sneaky and lying about things so I try to monitor her computer time to keep an eye on what she is up to. The computer is located in the dining room, she only gets an hour of computer time a day and I sit at the dining room table while she is on the computer. She has been IMing someone and I am concerned it is someone older and possibly dangerous for her. When I google spyware, most sites deal with keeping spyware off computers. I need a good inexpensive spyware that will help me monitor what she is IMing and what the person is typing back. Please help.
2006-10-20 06:43:49 · 16 answers · asked by Worried MOM 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Trust?
Sorry, I'm a parent and I am responsible for my child.
I want to know what is happening if I so choose.
The fact is, I have it and it is enabled, but I haven't checked it in forever.
If you aren't a parent then you need to just be quiet!
If you are a parent, stop being negligent in your duties!
I don't know about the cheapest, but watch dog is great.
You can control when they can get on, how long they are on, where they can go and what they can change in windows.
It can also log every keystroke and every site accessed.
It's only $40 for the full version as a download.
2006-10-20 06:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by timc_fla 5 · 0⤊ 5⤋
There are so many differing opinions on this subject matter. You could delete here account altogether and say no more myspace, but then you might make it worse. She might just be more sneaky and find another way to access it.There is no way to fully control her and I am not sure if you would want to. If she has been instilled with the proper values that hopefully you have brought her up with, then I would back off and trust her. That is the biggest thing you can do for her is give her your complete trust. Don't jump the gun and assume that she is going to do something to hurt herself. Let her explore and give her some space, most likely she will make the right decision. When she goes out, just have her check in and make sure you know where she's going and what time she will be home. The internet is full of alot of TALK. And that is all it is...Talk. Trust your daughter to make the right decision. Life is a learning process and she needs to learn her own lessons. You can't protect her from everything. She is a young woman now and needs to do her own learning.
If you keep trying to control her too much, you will just distance yourself from her and then you won't have a relationship at all.
It appears to me that there is obviously no good answer here. What is the point in even asking? I m sure you just go through and mark every answer bad unless it is exactly what YOU want hear. What a shame!
2006-10-20 06:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by Andrew B. 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You better buy the book "Positive Discipline for Teenagers" by Jane Nelson and stop spying your daughter.She is 16,not 6.If she doesn't share with you something it's probably because it's private or at least none of your business.How do you expect her to share anything if you are so instructive and only spy her?Start to trust your daughter.A few years after she will be an adult and you can't do anything.I know it's hard to believe your child is already a young woman,but you shouldn't stop her growing because you feel unsafety.When I was a teenager I didn't share eveything with my parents either.My oldest daughter(she is 15) cares about everything connected somehow with her and asks me for advice or understanding but SHE chooses who will she go out with or who will her friends be.She has her own e-mail and I never mess in her business if she doesn't ask me to.Your daughter is ANOTHER PERSON,not your proparty.Come on,you should grow up and show some respect to others.
2006-10-20 06:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by julie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
First off, I agree with what everyone is saying about communication with your daughter. It is very important. That may have been why she was sneaking around and lying. She may have felt that she couldnt talk to you about certain big things and that led to lying about little things as well.
Secondly, putting spyware on your computer is a bad idea. It could disable your computer completely and is very difficult to remove. There is another way you MAY be able to moniter your daugters instant messenger conversations. If you are able to access her instant messenger, right click on the other persons name and look for "view contact history" or "messege history" or something along those lines. Click on that and you should be able to see what she has been writing. if you dont know who she has been talking to, you could do this for each person... i believe you can also print these out as well.
Also, myspace isnt as bad as people make it seem. As long as she (your daughter) isnt giving out personal info, ie phone number or address, to strangers, she is fine.
Hope all that helps.
2006-10-20 07:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by collegechickbre 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Huh? You are creepy. Besides, the pervs are very uninteresting to talk to, anyone will notice them in about 5 minutes and just ignore them.
I think, that another 16 year old is just as likely to be dangerous to her than someone who is older than that.
2006-10-20 06:54:21 · answer #5 · answered by dane 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Remove the instant messanger programs. Problem solved. Don't allow her on the computer at all if you don't trust her. Problem solved. Inform her school that she is not to be on a computer without supervision. Problem solved. You don't need to spy on her to regain control of the situation.
2006-10-20 08:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by sovereign_carrie 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Stop trying to spy on your kid. Open up the lines of communication with your daughter and you won't have to sneak around behind her back to find out what she's doing!
2006-10-20 06:45:58 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Parents are the best way to monitor their teens. If you do not trust your child take the computer away..
2006-10-20 06:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Stop spying. How about trusting your teen
2006-10-20 06:45:46 · answer #9 · answered by keith s 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Restrict computer use instead of installing spyware.
2006-10-20 06:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋