I'm 26 years old, attractive and I think I have a nie personality. However, all the guys I've dated after my 8 years relationship, all said the same thing to me: I AM TOO CLINGY AND I DON'T TRUST THEM! They are right. For 8 years I was comfortable and alway had a boyfriend around, but my ex cheated on me, so I am having trouble trusting ALL MEN. Now I am seeing this hot restaurant manager, who I truly feel is the most sincere guy ever. He told me that he likes me a lot and just let his action show me how much he likes me. However with his 16+hrs, 6 days a week, he hardly ever has time for me. And to split it amongst his friends and family, I'm really talking just hrs/week. Also he came up to me while I was eating at his restaurant, I feel like if he comes up to me he can go up to anyone, right? But this guy already introduced to me his best buddies and his dad (I was over at his place when his dad arrived from Missouri). I shot pool w/his dad too.Confused! Help! What should I do? :(
2006-10-20 06:27:18 · 5 answers · asked by Gina C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, give this guy a try. But really get to know him. If he doesnt work out theres many fish in the sea!!!
2006-10-20 06:30:58 · answer #1 · answered by Veronica A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so young to have been involved in a 8 yr relationship. I think you should have "time "off" from men. I bet you haven't taken the time to get to know you and explore life, a vocationa and just explore other interests. Why do y you need a man to define who you are. I was in an intense relationship for 5 yrs and got my heart broken and I waited to "date" again for 3 yrs. I must say they were 3 yrs that i spent getting my masters degree and putrchasing a condo, learning to paint, garden, etc. When you spend time cultivating your talents and passions, you become a much stronger, interesting person. Pls don't rush into anything and don't be afraid of spending time w/yourself. Try to explore friendships! I ended up getting married to a friend who is truly my ally
2006-10-20 13:37:19 · answer #2 · answered by hopscothchbunnies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down. Take a deep breath. Don't rush into anything. Hope his dad isn't hitting on you to..? You need to think about things and calm down. You don't need to be with someone every minute of every day, in fact, be alone for a while. It might be difficult at first but until you are comfortable alone someone will always be around trying to fill that insecurity. Sounds like you have a social life so hang in there. Be your beautiful self and let the universe fulfill you.
2006-10-20 13:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is his life, it will always be busy if he stays in the restaurant business...either accept it or let it go and find someone else, sorry but thats the bottom line!
getting over someone is never easy, as you are aware. it may take many months, but if your patient and just keep yourself busy, a good man will come along.
2006-10-20 13:31:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
quit freaking out and just enjoy it while its going on. its not like you have to marry this guy. just enjoy hanging out with him, and if a relationship develops, then fine. quit worrying so much. just because that one guy was a jerk, doesn't mean they all are.
2006-10-20 13:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by jojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋