I'm one of the best men at my friend's engagement party. The other best man can't make it because he's working, while I just don't feel like driving four hours for a party. Of course I'll be at the wedding but is the engagement party really necessary?
2006-10-20 05:55:27 · 28 answers · asked by Dr_Helpful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No, there will be mostly women there and is not worth the trip.
Send a card and a plant or flower arrangement if you must.
You are only expected to go and PLAN for the Bachelor party, attend the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner, hold the rings and of course, be there at the wedding.
Good luck
2006-10-20 06:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the decision really has to be up to you. If it were me I would go no matter how far because I would want to support my best friend in all they were doing that I why I would be in that spot to begin with. In a way when you said yes to being the best man you took on responsibilities and part of those is being there to support the bride and groom and since you live four hours away you can't be there all of the time so for this special occasion I would take the opportunity to go, but if you feel that you have something else you need to go or that there is a reason you shouldn't go then I guess you don't have to. There is no law against it or anything but you should want to be there for your best friend. I hope this helps in your decision making - your the only one who can make the decision in the end because it's your life and your the one who has to live with the decision! Just remember your decision when you want the favor returned someday!!!!
2006-10-20 06:05:23 · answer #2 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A wedding (and all the parties that go with it) are once in a lifetime occasions. If you were selected to be a best man in your friends wedding it is a huge honor and responsibility. That includes going out of your way for the celebrations. This party is part of your obligation. If you did not want the job you should not have accepted it.
2006-10-20 06:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask you this question??? If you were getting married would you want your best man to miss you engagement party? Better yet lets just say the drive wasnt four hours would you go? Is the drive really the reason why you dont want to go? Isnt it bad enough his other best man wont be there. If you ask me he needs to find a real best man.
2006-10-20 06:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not completley necessary. We are having an engagment party on Saturday and one of our groomsmen lives about 3 hours away, and we aren't expecting him to come, that is a really far drive. I am sure your friend isn't expecting you to come, since it is so far. If he is then explain to him that the drive is far. He will understand. The only thing to remember is in my case, we are having the party to introduce everyone to everyone and let our bridal party have an idea of who they are walking down the isle with, but if you don't care about that then I don't think you HAVE to go..... You will be fine and your friend will understand.
2006-10-20 06:48:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the other best man isn't going you should go otherwise your homeboy getting married will have a shitty time, go to the party drink a few beers and it's never bad to get information on the bridesmaids before the wedding anyway.
2006-10-20 06:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by Ross B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you not go and help your best friend celebrate his going into a knew life as his friend it shouldnt matter how many hour you must drive just supporting him and being the good person that you know you are you should really consider going!!!
2006-10-20 06:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since it would be a four hour drive for you, I would opt out. There don't seem to be too many of the engagement parties anymore, and your friend should understand that it is such a long way for you.
2006-10-20 05:59:22 · answer #8 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm not one for parties myself so I would find some excuse - you've got to work, you've already got plans that day....the problem is, you're in the wedding party. Do what you want - but not going might put the bride on edge.
2006-10-20 06:34:35 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. I mean its not everyday. Its just that day and your friend who has even selected you as a best man is worth four hours of driving.
2006-10-20 06:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋