i am 17 right now and i live with my mother. she's a great person and i love her a lot, but she wants me to be into church way too much and when i am not into church as much as she wants me to be, she gets really angry with me and i eventually got fed up with it. now i just do what i want because i felt so suffocated. our relationship has disinegrated and she pretty much hates me, but at least i'm not living a lie now. i feel like i'm finally finding myself. do you think i am doing the right thing or should i play "church" to make her happy?
2006-10-20 05:48:26 · 11 answers · asked by kitty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
at your age i would let you make your own decisions, there is one god and only one god no mather what religion u believe in Mary didnt have 50 different Jesus, so when your ready you can makw up your own mind.
I am going through this with my 3 daughters right now , 1 is 18 and dosent go to chrurch but thats ok with me, my 2 little ones go every sunday... until they make there sacraments then its up to them.
2006-10-20 05:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should go to church if you don't really believe in that religion. It's false, and it hurts.
It would be nice if you could sit down with your Mom as an adult - because you practically are - and say something to the effect of, "Mom, I love you and I respect your beliefs, but I just don't believe the same way. Please try to understand, I would like to figure things out on my own. I promise to try to have good morals." If you do this in a calm, gentle, loving way, she might come around.
If she doesn't, then you'll have done your best. She may just need time to accept that you are going down a different path. Keep going, but try to be understanding of her. She will probably get over it with time, because no matter how angry she gets she still loves you. She's probably just worried about you and confused why you are making different choices than hers.
2006-10-20 13:34:30 · answer #2 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do what i did, go to church and wonder how so many people care to
be seen as good doers, use church as a way of seeing how many people are so unsure of themselves and to find security in your own, Take the time to love your mother, and learn how to repair what is already damaged. For some reason fear drives people to church, fear of the guilt they carry everyday. She is afraid for you and its her fear that is blinding her, its normal for mothers to be concerned, and if shes really angry with you, its probably because you are rebelling to the extremes ...little too much attitude or maybe the clothes, the music, all the age old tricks used to show Independence and rebellion. Go to church, but when you go, go to see how the population can be led by the nose like a ringed bull, how they all think they are right when they have no idea themselves and probably never will.how they believe they are good when in truth they have secrets in their life that they never want exposed and that they are as nasty as the next person when they are not in church. if half the people were as good as they say they were ... When you go, go to investigate the truth of what they tell you, investigate who actually wrote the bible, and for what cause. and always keep in the back of your mind that the bible was wrote by man for man. I'm not saying that the bible is all lies, just a story that used the truths of life to make it believable.
All of this is only my opinion, and its only you that can decide your truths and lies. Don't completely give in to your mother. compromise...tell her you will go to church with her gratefully as long as she will show her love as love and not anger and take the time to do something that makes the bond between mother and child live happy, for the time you have together, is limited by life in general.
take care
I hope you work things out
2006-10-20 13:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by madeawareofyou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mom's only mean the best for you, in their eyes. Don't worry she'll come back around once you've proven you are doing ok as you are. Having faith and going to church are two different things. I don't happen to believe that going to church is in fact the best way to worship. If you believe, you can worship anywhere. You did good. Just take care of you first.
2006-10-20 12:56:33 · answer #4 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why I hate religion.
However, your mother is doing this because she loves you and is in fear for your soul. Remember that ok.
Even if you don't believe or don't want to attend it won't kill you to go. Not saying you should but it won't kill you.
You have a right to your opinion and to live your own life. I feel sad that some parents allow this to interfere in relationships. Don't think that is what God would want.
Until you move out your life may benefit from following your mother's wishes.
2006-10-20 12:53:27 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Religion is a person's wish. Religion is a relationship between you and god only and noone has a right to interfere. You did the right thing but once in a while just go to the church to please her.
Just make her happy. Not as many times but once in a while.
2006-10-20 12:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what your mothers doing is wrong. I have a 5 year old and don't even want to have her babtized til she is old enough to chose her own religion. We do go to church every once and a while but its up to her to believe in what she wants as long as its good.
2006-10-20 12:53:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What is the minimum age of an adult in your state. If you are not that age then get over it and "play church".
2006-10-20 12:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by Caitlyn's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Never play church!!!!!!! Let her see the real you! Tell her if she wants any say then pray for you.
2006-10-20 12:54:15 · answer #9 · answered by panda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go to church and make her happy
2006-10-20 12:51:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋