Me and my bf have been together going on three years...we have a beautiful daughter together and we have e home together..but after all this time we have had our bumps along the road but he still wont propose and I am tired of sitting around waiting on him hell he hasnt even given me a promise ring and on top of it all his sis is getting married and hes all like i cant wait until i get married and i flat out asked him one day if he ever had any intentions to marry me and hes like i dunno maybe im not sure i want to get married...please help i dont know what to do but im tired of waiting
2006-10-20 05:46:36 · 9 answers · asked by eagle_angel_07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have already told him that either he marries me or im gone and he said he wasnt gonna be pushed into something and we actually took a small break about a year ago
2006-10-20 05:55:19 · update #1
I think he cares about you, but I don't think he wants to really get married. He is beating around the bush about the issue, and you don't deserve that. It seems like it is something that is bothering you and I see why, but have you ever talked deeply about the issue? You should really sit down and break it down to him, how you feel and all. It's very wrong for him to make you feel he cares about you enough to possibly marry you someday, but not giving you a definite assurance of it, it's sad. You should tell him how you feel, how you feel betrayed, heart broken, not appreciated, you know. I mean, you don't have to give him an ultimatium, but you can reassure him that you and your daughter should matter more to him, that if he really loves you guys, that he should show you. you shouldn't have to ask him to propose to you, then it's like he is forcing his feelings through obligation, not from his heart. If he can't show you that he truly loves you and wants to be with you, honestly I don't see why you stay with him. I say give him another year to prove himself, if he doesn't and your feelings are remaining the same, then it's sad to say, but move on. There' s others out there that will appreciate you.
2006-10-20 05:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by pumpk713 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you didn't mention your age, but at 9 months I would think that a verbal commitment to having his children and moving in with you is a pretty good indication that he does see a future with you. I know one issue guys sometimes have when they're in a serious and committed relationship is the idea of a big expensive ring and an even bigger, more expensive wedding. The fact is, If there is no dialog now, then I can almost garauntee that the relationship won't last. So if you're really ready for marriage, then you should be able to talk openly about it (along with all of your individual and mutual plans for the future).
2016-05-22 05:15:54 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my gf and I have been together for almost 4 years. We have some bumps but whatever that sort of thing happens with any women (like her talking too much and me not wanting to call her because she will keep me on the phone talking about nonsense for hours if I do). Anyway, I can't even think about getting married until I get a career going for myself. Then we would have to move into together (marriage simulation is what I call that). But you guys already live together and have a family. It's natural for him to be afraid of that sort of thing. I'm sure he is waiting for something. Ask him if he loves you.
2006-10-20 05:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by three6ty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he wants to marry you, if he wanted to he would have proposed by now. Maybe the best thing for you to do is to distance yourself from him.
2006-10-20 05:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Just♥Brie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him an altimadum. Tell him either we get married or i'm going to leave with our daughter.
2006-10-20 05:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If u are tired of waiting then get out he might be waiting forever
2006-10-20 05:49:09 · answer #6 · answered by nitenurse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take out a large life insurance policy on him, get his social security number, then change the locks on the door.
It is time to move on.... he won't commit.
2006-10-20 07:54:53 · answer #7 · answered by insuranceguytx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to get married to be married. Look up common law marraiges in your state.
2006-10-20 05:50:25 · answer #8 · answered by Caitlyn's Mommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a ultimatum and if he still doesn't want to commit... I'm sure you'll find someone who will.
2006-10-20 05:51:09 · answer #9 · answered by CARAMEL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋