I spent a lot of time praying and praying for my husband because he had been spending a lot of time going out and being not-so-nice to me...so...then I found out he cheated on me and he got thrown in jail and my life was completely shattered. I haven't wanted to pray since.
Has anyone else experienced this?
2006-10-20 05:16:27 · 20 answers · asked by jessy 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Honey, God can't change people.. we all have free will.
He can put conviction on their hearts, try to get them to change their minds, but sometimes they just won't.. They don't listen to Him, they listen to Satan.
You prayed to God about your husband, and then you found out he was cheating? Do you think perhaps God was the one Who shed light on that so you could see what kind of a person your husband was?
The same thing is now happening to you. God's trying to ask you to trust Him. He's asking you to change your heart and come back to Him. Proverbs 3 says.. "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths."
Don't let Satan win in this tug-of-war over you. He's rejoicing that he broke you and your husband up, and that now your husband is in sin and that you now don't have a relationship with God. Cry out to Jesus and He will lift you up. He didn't make your husband cheat on you, your HUSBAND was the one that decided to cheat on you.
Just as God isn't making you not talk to Him. It's your own choice.
I pray that you make the right choice.
As to answer your question, no.
Nothing has happened like that that I can recall. It's in the midst of sorrow that I have to remember to cling to Jesus with all I have. The grips of Satan cannot tear me away from my Lord.
God bless :)
2006-10-20 05:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by SJ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to say, only God can read the heart. You may have prayed for your hubby, but if he didn't want anything to do with God, that would have been the his fault and there's nothing God can do about that except give a man what he deserves. You may have been married to him, but if he cheated on you and got thrown into jail, it doesn't sound like he was all that into you or God. You need to get your priorities straight. If you prayed for God to fix the situation, it sounds like he worked on it. If your life is shattered becuase a man stopped loving and respecting you and apparently commited some illegal act and got what he deserved (jail-time) then I really can't say I understand the problem here. I admit I'm not in the situation, but there's no way having that man around you would fix it. If nothing else, you just need to put people around you that love and respect you, but remember that you get what you give. If you don't love and respect yourself, then how's anybody else going to? You can't let this situation "shatter" your life. There's plenty of people who have had worse situations and got past them. You're not alone.
2006-10-20 05:28:40 · answer #2 · answered by CHRISTINA 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How can you say your life was shattered?
On the contrary, his life was exposed to you and it looks like he was taken to be away from you.
It possibly is the start of a new life for you.
I would say you did the right thing by praying, it just worked out in a way you may not see as yet.
We are all learning.
This type of situation happens a lot. You have to be able to understand what has happened.
My wife and I see this sort of chapter in people's lives.
Yes we went through it too.
2006-10-20 05:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by dyke_in_heat 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, But later I found out that people have freedom of choice and no matter how much God desires to change the way they are, If they dont want to be changed, there is nothing he can do about it. He can give as many hints but it depends on your husband wether he wants to get them or not. Just keep praying and dont loose faith.
2006-10-20 05:49:06 · answer #4 · answered by chinaz777 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are blaming God for your husbands sins. God gives us a choice. Where your husband has shattered you, God can repair you.
The reason you don't desire to pray is also because you are believing the devils lies about yourself. God loves you sooo much and wants you to be healed completely. The only way God can mend you is if you let Him. That means to trust Him completely. With out faith it is impossible to please God. For those that come to Him must believe that He Is and is a rewarder to those who seek Him. Remember, His Word reveals He will never leave us or forsake us. That we can trust Him.
What He thinks is important, not so much people we care about. For people aren't perfect. God is always there. But we also need to forgive others for hurting us for God to hear us. So also, you need to forgive those that have hurt you. Remember that Jesus forgave & forgot all our sins, so we need to do the same to others.
So repent for any unforgiveness toward others. Tell God that you trust & obey Him and that you know He Is and Loves you. That is what is important. Give your all to God for Him to heal. The wounds are deep.
2006-10-20 05:40:01 · answer #5 · answered by t_a_m_i_l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you pray when you should deal with the fact you marry a loser?
You should have asked him questions about the marriage and deal with the problem in your marriage. Praying only help your self and not the marriage.
You want to talk to god that is fine but when it come to real life problems face it head on like the rest of us. You may fail like the rest of us but you learn and move on. Don't stop praying just don't relay on it as the only way out of any problem.
I hope you found your self girl.
2006-10-20 06:03:10 · answer #6 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry to hear about what happened. It will take a while for you heart to mend, but if you truly believe in God's word then take a look at these scriptures that follow. God knows what he's doing and he's bigger than the sins of man. Perhaps he just wasn't meant for you especially if he wasn't even good to you. God has now provided you with a way out - take it!
Jeremiah 29:11-14
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you," declares the LORD, "and will bring you back from captivity.I will gather you from all the nations and places where I have banished you," declares the LORD, "and will bring you back to the place from which I carried you into exile."
Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.
2006-10-20 05:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Light 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I must admit that at times in my life, I have wondered 'where is God now when I need him?' However, I've since come to realise that everything in this life happens for a reason and it's maybe not until some time later that you realise what that reason was. Thank God for being with you, even through the seemingly bad times and for giving you strength to cope. What appear to be difficult obstacles in our life actually turn out to be a blessing in disguise.
http://www.freewebs.com/spiritualhealing
2006-10-20 05:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I prayed for my husband to be delivered from alcohol for 10 years and my prayers were finally answered. I always told him that God was going to give him a wake up call--and he did--I went into congestive heart failure while delivering our twins. My husband got saved after that and he is a changed man. God knows the desires of your heart--but I believe that you should seek Christian counseling for the infidelity. That's a hard pill to swallow-for anyone.
2006-10-20 05:26:15 · answer #9 · answered by heavnbound 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps God allowed you to find out your husband cheated on you right away before he could bring home any kind of diseases to you...it all depends on your perspective, and remember YOU chose that man as your husband, not GOD. Try turning the tables and thanking Him for sparing you a life of misery with this no-good cheat! Now you can find a REAL godly man to love you. Best to you.
2006-10-20 05:23:52 · answer #10 · answered by lookn2cjc 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋