or far apart to have a break in between babies?
2006-10-20 05:13:07 · 19 answers · asked by jessy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Just speaking from personal experience (3 children in 4 years) I can say that it is difficult having children closely spaced. Very small children need a lot of love and attention, and it is hard to care for many small children at once. It is, however, great that they have each other for playmates when they get a bit older.
Whether this is the best spacing for you will probably depend on your parenting style, and whether you can handle a lot of chaos.
2006-10-20 05:19:39 · answer #1 · answered by Shana 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your body needs a break in between they say it takes a year for your body and hormones to get back into its normal groove. It is diffrent for every woman.
My sisters and I are all 2 years apart. We fought a lot but It was more due to how our parents raised us.
There are a lot of factors in when to have kids. like everyone said, how much can you handle. My son is 19 months and I know if I had another baby now he would be a big help but he would still need a lot of attention.
If you are a close family it wont matter what age your kids are they will end up loveing eachother all the same.
remember kids go through stages in life and they are bound to clash sometime. I feel that 4 years is a good enough gap and anywhere after that it will be harder when they are older and in junior high and high school, the younger will want to to be the older and follow them and that is the time in the older kids life when they want freedom. It all depends on a lot of factors.
Me personally I think 3 years is just enough and just a little.
2006-10-20 13:43:32 · answer #2 · answered by fleur_loser 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jessy:
I have a daughter who is almost one and I am 5 and 1/2 months pregnant with another little girl. Being pregnant right now is emotionally so tough on me. I want nothing more than to be enjoying my daughter right now but I am so tired from the current pregnancy that part of me wishes I would have waited. On the other hand I only want two children so I will be done in about 4months and I can get my body back and enjoy my girls. I thin children are hard no matter what ages they are and what stage they are in.. You worry about different things at different points in their life and being tired is part of being a parent. Truthfully, I think close together is better for the children. My brother and I are 5 and a half years a part and we are just now getting close...........
2006-10-20 12:45:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pregnant with my third child. When I had my first I thought it would be great to have another one relatively close together in age...unfortunately the first was a girl, the second a boy. They are now almost 10 and 12 and have never really had anyhing in common. Our next one is due in Jan. (a girl) and there will be a 10 year gap between the new one and my youngest. The great news is, my kids are both thrilled and they can't wait to help with the new baby!
2006-10-20 12:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its about 50/50...close together so you can have all the diapers done at the same time but your body needs a break between pregnancies...my husband and I have a 19 month old and have been trying for another for 17 months and still nothing and thats another thing..you will never know when you will get pregnant again..could be a couple of months could be a couple of years
2006-10-20 12:17:44 · answer #5 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's good thing for parents to have kids close in age, but it's not necessarily easy for the parents.
My mom had my sisters and I (twin and younger sis) 11 months apart and although she loved it, it was hard, because she was doing it all alone. I think it depends on what each person can handle. Till this day, my mom still says that if her marriage was better than it was, she would have had more children.
Aside from that, I know that many siblings, regardless of age difference, don't really get along well. I think some of it has to do with how children handle a new siblings and how they interact with each other.
Even though my sisters and I are very close in age, I get along better with my twin than I do with my younger sister, but then my twin has a better relationship with our younger sis than I do, so it depends on the sibling relationships.
That's just my two cents. Good luck with deciding!!
2006-10-20 12:43:52 · answer #6 · answered by tai_aka_tamariana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My first girl was 11 months when we became preg. with our 2nd girl. They are exactly 20 months apart and the best of friends, they entertain each other and take great care of one another. they are 3 and 41/2 now. There will be a 3 1/2 year difference between our 2nd child and our 3rd child -we are pregnant with our 3rd and I am going to have our 3rd and 4th close together also.
2006-10-20 13:53:13 · answer #7 · answered by momto2girls13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have twin 11 year old, 5 year old and a 4 year old. Having the big age span, is nice when you need someone to watch the younger ones for a few minutes, but you wind up depending on them too much i think and then the younger one wants to do what the older one is doing and they are just too young. i say have them no more than 3 years apart. My young ones are 22 months apart and that is really good, for me anyway.
2006-10-20 22:25:34 · answer #8 · answered by Babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
close together. my first 2 are 12 months apart and then my baby is 5 years after my second child. It was much easier having them close.
2006-10-20 12:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by mommysrock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm really not sure what is right or wrong. My kids are 17, 8, and 1 year. I feel like I had a lot of time with each one while they were young and they just adore eachother. I love it. Many people think that you should have kids close together, but this really has worked for our family.
2006-10-20 12:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by eagfan5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋