I have been stood up twice by the guy I like. The first time, he didn't call or do anything at all. I told him that it bothered me, he said next time 'if plans change, I'll call.' So, I let it go.
Last night he was coming by to get his birthday present. He never called or showed. I checked my email this morning and he had wrote to tell me that his nephew was with him and the nephew was p*ssed and being a d*ck and he didn't want me to be around him. He said 'but tonight, definately.'
I said I had plans tonight so for him to call before he came. And I said "and pulllleaze start calling me when you stand me up. please." he said it was really late and he knew I had to work today. I told him it doesn't matter what time it is; when he doesn't call it hurts my feelings and makes me feel like he could careless. I said "I'm not mad, it just hurts." He said he was sorry...
Do you think I handled it well by expressing how it made me feel but not b*tching him out?
2006-10-20 05:03:00 · 7 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I probably should have added in that even though I am interested in him, I have a date tonight with someone else. And I am friends with him regardless of how I feel. I just wanted to make sure that I didn't overstep or understep my lines...
2006-10-20 05:30:54 · update #1
YES YES YES, finally a straight forward person who says what she feels!! You did exactly the right thing!!!
2006-10-20 05:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by distortedbeauty2010 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no.
Yes because you told him how you felt and that's very important in any relationship. Good for you doing that!
No because you sound so desperate and that's a huge turn off for anyone.
You need to learn to read between the lines. He stood you up twice. What does that tell you? He's not interested in dating you and that's very obvious. Also, the fact that he emailed you rather than calling you is a hug "between the lines" communication that he's not interested.
Look, there are soo many guys in this world. Don't waste your time with the one guy you know is not interested in you.
I'd forget about him and just live your life. Sooner than you think now, a new guy will come into your life and you will have a new opportunity.
Stay strong and reserve those feelings for the guy that makes sure you know that your appreciated.
2006-10-20 12:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by Jerrid 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer the phone next time he calls, don't answer the door when (IF) he comes over, and block his email address. He has no consideration for anybody but himself, and the excuses he's giving you, I've heard them all. He doesn't care if you're hurting. He's not going to change.
2006-10-20 12:07:18 · answer #3 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Certainly being crabby never helps...so you handled youself well by restraining yourself. Perhaps some more open communications will help in the future!
2006-10-20 12:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the singles life of irresponsibility!
But Kudos on handling him though I'd put it across in a more pragmatic fashion.
Don't know on multiple dating, so long as it's geting to know the other person and nothing more.
2006-10-22 10:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by mmmporg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly forget him. if he was really interested he wouldn't "forget" to be considerate, Just forget about him. and yes you did the right thing by telling him straight that you didn't appreciate his actions way to go. now find someone worth your time
2006-10-20 12:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by Beeper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have told him "Alright...life is too short. Strike 3 and you're out, man..."
2006-10-20 12:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by just me 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋