My son has been going to senior school on the buses now for 6weeks, I cannot let him go on his own just yet, I have seen the nasty cruel kids that travel the buses, the gangs that pick on the kids that travel alone, I know I have to let him go at some point but when, when would It be right to, when would it be safe enough, I just cant see me being able to say goodbye at my front door and just hope and pray he made it to school and then home again, he is so special and such a good kid with a big heart, he would not hurt a fly but he can stand up for himself if provoked but these gangs dont do one on one fighting they do ten on one. I dont want him hurt and I dont want to be saying to myself 'I wish I never', the world has changed so much since I went to school even though I do pride myself in knowing what is happening out there, I do NOT wrap him up in cotton wool I am not one of those mums I just want him to be safe. Any advice please but you must understand what I am talking about!
2006-10-20 04:53:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let him find himself but be there for him.
2006-10-20 04:57:12 · answer #1 · answered by Rayda1 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am also a mom of a three year old girl..although she is in pre-k. I dread the day that she has to go off to elementary or junior high school.I understand what you mean..kids today are so cruel and they fight for no apparent reason..times have change..I just dont understand what gives these damn kids the right to put their hands on our kids..I will hurt someone if they ever touch my daughter..also it has alot to do with parenting and what the kids see in the home..also kids when they are young often times they struggle with identity crisis..still it does not give the right to put they dirty little hands on our kids..
when I attended school i tried my best not to get on any ones wrong side..so I made out in school ok..but some kids are not that fortunate.
let him go..so that way he can feel like he is growing up and just let him know that if anyone put their hands on him ..to let a school offical know or you..
you what also piss me of sometimes these so call school offical dont do anything about the situation...it is a hard thing to deal with when you get up every morning dress you kid for school and have to worry if they are safe at school..school should be a place where kids are taught to love and care for each other and learn alot about life lessons etc.
my prayers are with you and your kid
2006-10-20 06:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your fear, I have kid's also. We can't live in fear though. It is not healthy! Of course we can use precaution to protect ourselves and the people that we love. Is he OK with you driving him to the bus stop? That is always a great option. If he does not want you to do that the only thing that you can really do is pray each morning that he walks out the door. Pray that the Lord would put a shield of protection around him and trust in it. I am pretty sure that is the only thing to do unless you have the means of moving to a different area where he would not be exposed to this violence. Best of luck to you!!!
2006-10-20 05:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by Kim M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all feel like this when our kids go to senior school,and the more you take him the more reason for the bullies to pick on him as a mummies boy you really are doing him no favours by taking him.Can you arrange for him to catch the bus with some friends and to take a mobile phone so he can text or phone when he gets there just to let you know hes OK.
2006-10-20 05:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard, almost impossible to let go. My son also wants to go to school on his own, but for now I can't let him. If anything happened to him... For now we try to compromise, I sometimes let him go part of the way on his own, but I watch till he's out of sight. Then I fret about him! But I know the school will let me know if there's been any trouble. Is there a Friend or friends he could travel with? Safety in numbers etc.
2006-10-20 05:01:24 · answer #5 · answered by F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advise to you is get out of the area that you are living in. Move to a more rural area. I live in a small town in the countyside and their are no gangs here, everyone knows each other and each child. I feel very sad for you having to live with all this negativity around you. Pack your things and move.
2006-10-20 08:20:59 · answer #6 · answered by AVERIL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The longer you keep seeing im off and picking him up, the more likely he is to get picked on for being a mummy's boy. Secondary school? So he's eleven, right? Come on, girl - give him some space
2006-10-20 05:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to cut the apron strings sweetie...when i first joined high school...my mum was with me and i begged her to let me go alone...it's a teen thing...kids are cruel these days and do bully others, but if they see your son being taken to school by his mum it will be worse for him, he's a growing lad...let him go alone, or arrange for him to meet his mates...you got to let go at some stage, so it may as well be now, if he has a problem with the other kids i am sure he'll tell you about it....bless you
2006-10-20 05:09:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
enrol him in some judo classes so that he develops the confidence to look after himself.
It's very hard being a parent knowing all the dangers that wait out their for our kids but hoping and praying that they aren't one of the unlucky ones that run into a situation they can't handle.
2006-10-21 03:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by CeeVee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get police protection.
I'm joking. If something's going to happen, it's destined to happen. What happened to my grandson was unfortanate and probably destined to happen. It might happen with you there, and then you'd get hurt and he'd STILL be humilated.
Just watch the news and let him know if John Parsons escapes again.
Joking. Good luck, praying for you all.
2006-10-20 05:02:11 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa X 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he can handle himself then now would be the best time to let go. just warn him not to go near or have anything to do with the bullies in the school and he should be ok
2006-10-20 05:01:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋