Hi...as you can see I'm confused. Don't know what to do. I live in Ireland and I'm going out with someone I have a good job and anyone looking at me would think I'm sorted for life but I'm not.
I lived abroad for 2 years and was going out with a guy there for a year and a half and I still love him and want to be with him, but there's no life over there. Unemployment is high so the standard of living is not great. We speak often and e-mail each other and he still loves me but he won't move over to Ireland because he has his own restaurant over there.
I don't know what to do. The guy I'm seeing the past 5 months is great but I don't love him.
What should I do?
2006-10-20 04:47:18 · 14 answers · asked by Ms Confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stop leading your boyfriend in Ireland off! you are in love with another man and he needs to know
2006-10-20 04:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by cali_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a tricky one, i think you should start with finishing your relationship with your current boyfriend as it's not fair to lead him on if you dont love him.
Tell the other guy exactly how you feel and if he feels the same then you need to decide how to make things work, you cant be in different countries permanently.
I lived in spain for over a year and there was no life their so i know where your coming from. If theres no way you can live in the same country then your best off just forgetin about him i'd advise you to stop contact with him this could be hard as you love him but will make it easier for each of you to get over each other.
your choice a life with him in a crappy place or a life in Ireland with someone else?
Good Luck!!
2006-10-20 11:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say put him out of your mind if you want to be financially secure...but you only live once and true love only comes along once (if your lucky-twice) in a lifetime. You've been seeing someone for 5 months that is great but you haven't fallen in love with him? You can't move on as long as your love stays with this other guy.
If it were me, I would go to the one I love...Do you really want to go through life knowing that you found your soulmate and chose security over a long life companion who you love?
2006-10-20 11:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by just me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day its only 5 months ur going with this lad. Sometimes it can take people longer to fall in love. sounds 2me u came out of one relationship and went in to another thats why ur prying over your ex. U say ur new man is great why dont you give him a chance. he is probably mad in love with you and its not fair u still pining over ur ex. have u told ur new man this. Wel maybe you should but ur with him 5months at the end of the day so it is obvious there is something there. ur ex has his own business and unemployment is very high over there as you stated why woulod you want to go back wen all ud b is depressed and wanting to come back. the best thing i advise is to let go of all links u have wit u ex and give ur new man a chance.its not fair leading him up a stony path.. goodluck!!!!!!
2006-10-20 12:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by helena w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow u really have a bad situation but if u luv this guy so much................what is luv
doin what is above ur limit 4 the other person. so if u really love him............guess u should go back abroad and mayb doors will b opened and ull have a good job or convince that giy to leave his restrant to b managed .......
or just stay cool 4 the moment and see what happens
2006-10-20 12:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, finish gently with the guy you're dating now; it's not fair on him. Second, talk realistically to the guy you love. One of you needs to move to be with the other, only you two can decide who that will be. Good luck.
2006-10-20 11:52:35 · answer #6 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow ur heart huni ur a long time dead.ur askin on here 2 probably get these kinda answers cause u probably feel a wee shite.bt ur nt ur human.go 4it.good luck xx ps if u no any fit single males pass them on im really in2 irish hotties at the mo lol
2006-10-20 12:07:01 · answer #7 · answered by Nellynoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell us where your true love has his restaurant, it
would help us to give some advice. Regardless of the place,
if he really loves you and you feel the same, go and live with
him. Loves overcomes any drawbacks. Be happy.
2006-10-20 12:15:25 · answer #8 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well God help all 3 of you involved if you're having to resort to advice from a bunch of strangers on yahoo. Grow up - act like an adult, take a decision for yourself, and stick to it.
2006-10-20 12:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by misbehave4me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh just go and be with manuel or jose or whatever his name is have the guts to tell the poor mug you have been stringing along for the past 5 months and bugger off to where the waiter lives.
2006-10-20 11:52:56 · answer #10 · answered by crownose 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋