I found this posting on a website :
" Now I have seen and heard it on TV and even in BN that marrige is a joke. I say it's a lie and that Marrige takes hard work and must involve two loving people ready to give their all and neither cannot be out for themselves.Speak out all married people. "
I have read some of the responses people gave this person. I am getting married in april and would love to hear from people in yahoo answers.
thanks
2006-10-20 04:44:22 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm coming up on my 28th anniversary and have been with my husband for 31 years. My best advice is to always remember that you fell in love with someone for who he or she is and not what you think you can change them into being. Do expect change and be adaptable (we have endured cancer and depression, children, and aging parent).
Take time for each other, even when everyone else is clamoring for immediate attention. Allow each other space . You may need to get away with the gfs for a weekend or vice versa. It allows you time to renew.
Separate interests are also important. My husband loves to play video games with our boys. I love to knit and watch decorating shows on TV and we both enjoy cooking and traveling.
To everyone that is considering marriage but is afraid, I say go for it. It is one of the scariest decisions I made in my life but I don't regret it.
2006-10-20 08:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by knittinmama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not 50/50 like some people tell...it requires 100 from each party...some days one can only give say 80 then the other 20 must be made up by the other like in terms of support during a low or challenging time but one cannot always be the one with less than 100...can't expect one member to always make up the deficit...that would not be healthy.
2006-10-21 07:22:48 · answer #2 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with that statement. Marriage is hard work. ALL THE TIME. Marriage is also about compromise and working towards ONE common life as a couple -- not the two separate lives that you entered into marriage with.
Please don't misunderstand me and think that I am saying that both people have to change and they can't be themselves ... that is not the case at all. If anything, both partners should maintain who they are even more but find common ground in compromising to get the best from each other.
After all, you should only be in the relationship/marriage if you bring out the best in your partner and they bring out the best in you.
Love does play a HUGE role in marriage but it can't "hold" the marriage together. That is what communication and compromise are for.
I love my Husband, and I love becoming a better person because of him.
2006-10-20 12:36:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage can be a wonderful thing when two people work very hard at making each other happy. I have been married for almost a year now, and I think it is the best thing that could have ever happened to me. I smile more now and feel completely and utterly satisfied with life. Just make sure you find the man that completes you and always keep his concerns and feelings in mind then you will have a great marriage.
2006-10-20 11:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not easy, it takes work, and compromise, and communication, and most of all, love and commitment. Commiting to one person for the rest of your life is quite an undertaking, considering that people grow and change. Man and Woman never seem to be at the same place at the same time. But, if you truly love that person, and are willing to accept them wholely ( the good and the bad ) then you will make it through those rough times, and be better and stronger people for it. So, I say, Marriage, yes absolutely, its the best decision I've ever made. My husband and I have been married for 24 years.
2006-10-20 12:21:04 · answer #5 · answered by LofanNui 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does take two people. One person can't expect to give it there all and the other person doesn't. If one person doesn't want to try then they will not succeed. I think that marriage can be difficult but at the same time it can be easy. I have the lord on my side and that helps a great deal. Just remember don't give up. It should be an effort of 100-100. Give it your all and that is all you can do!!
2006-10-20 12:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is hard when the times are tough, out of work, no money, disagreement on how to raise the kids things like that but it shoudlnt be ajob. If you feel that you are having to work at being together you need to sit down and see whats wrong. You should enjoy being together, seeing each other, but you should also be thankful for your time apart. You have to split the work one person cant do it all, and you have to be loyal. If you got married for the wrong reasons adn you are staying together for the wrong reasons then it is going to end in sadness. But if you honest all the time then you can make it and be happy.
2006-10-21 14:04:45 · answer #7 · answered by mother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been happily married for 11 months now. It's true marriage takes hard work and committment. However, that doesn't mean marriage is a joke and it's a lie. I enjoy being married. It's fun, it's fulfilling, it's exciting for me. It's an amazing adventure to take with the love of your life. Marriage is what you make it. We have chosen to make our marriage the best, and not another statistic.
2006-10-20 11:58:08 · answer #8 · answered by sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is much truth to that statement (however, I don't think marriage is a joke)... Yes, marriage is fun, yes, it is hard. We do not grow without lessons. Living with someone can be hard sometimes, but if you work together and are willing to make compromises and meet each other half way it is worth it all!
Don't let it scare you away from marriage, if you love someone and you want to be with them the rest of your life, and grow old together, go for it!
2006-10-20 11:55:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard work sometimes, but it's worth it when you've married the right person. It's a wonderful journey. You do have to be willing to be self-sacrificing. If both people are committed to putting each other first after God, you can have an amazing marriage.
2006-10-20 12:30:59 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋