2006-10-20 04:39:33 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
What you can expect "from" marriage is, if you've chosen a partner well, what you give "to" marriage. You should expect to give and get respect. You should expect to give and get love. You should expect to give and get support. You should expect to give and get loyalty. You should expect to give and get help.
But, you should also expect that, from time to time, the giving and getting won't be in balance--and, if, during the times when you're not "getting," you'll keep "giving" if you think that the marriage is worth keeping.
2006-10-21 04:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by Le Miccine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was planning my wedding I was expecting marriage to be a fairy tale, I was expecting my husband and I to live out lives and have kids and live happily ever after! He had a good job (even though I knew he had problems) and my job was going okay. Well after we got married everything changed. My husband decided he wanted to change jobs (He had been there for 10 years and he is only 25 years old it had started out as a summer job) he ended up working a night shift which changed everything. Then my office had problems with mold in the building and everybody getting sick and so I have had medical problems and legal problems. So, my expectations were really high.
I think that realstic expectations of marriage are to realize that things change all of the time. Jobs, personality, life. And that you have to accept them as they come. Don't try to fight it. I also think a realistic expectation is to realize that you are going to fight there is no getting around it but to realize that you do love each other and just make sure that you show that other person just how much you do care for them. Also remember that nothing is 50-50 it should always be 100-100. If you remember that then everything should be great!
I wish you the best!!
2006-10-20 04:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-faithfulness in al circumstances with any person they are around without you watching-NO EXCETIONS or else end it.
-compliance and/or tolerance of your personal beliefs and morals (the BEST CHOICE BY FAR is that you both have the same views on big issues in religion, etc. you'll get along a LOT better if you do!)
-same goals/compatible goals-do they want kids? live in city or countryside? dog or cat? you get the idea.
-if and when i am propsed to someday, i will tell him that before he puts the ring on my finger, that he must swear to me that divorce is no longer part of our vocabularies. especially if you have kids. ppl divorce so casually today, that ppl forget that you're not only damaging each other's souls forever by tearing yourselves apart, but you're damaging the tender hearts and innocent minds of your children in the process. if he/she can't do that, THEY ARE NOT WORTH IT.
-fill in the blanks! if there is something else, ask them. talk to them. communicate. come to a common ground on all these and other areas BEFORE you get married. if you realize you don't "click" after marriage, then you've got a mess on your hands.
2006-10-20 04:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by anabelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably not be disillusioned by finding any perfect person who will take care of you. Everything is fifty-fifty, which could mean bills and most other responsibilities.
Whatever you do, don't get married too fast, cuz you'll regret it!
Get to know the person first - fight with them, talk with them, share various experiences and secrets.
Or else you'll just have to do it later and be disappointed.
Remember, no PERFECT mate is out there.
2006-10-20 04:53:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before I got married to my husband, it was wonderful...we went out all the time and had fun. Now that we are married, we stay home alot and see the relatives more. We disagree on things and we go to bed alot earlier!! However, I love my husband dearly and I would not change a thing!
2006-10-20 07:15:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first is a life partner who will be with you till the end.
Children.
Sex and love life.
Found someone who is always there for you and cares for you.
New relations like in laws.
A new life.
2006-10-20 04:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's give and take. But you can't expect to take out more than you give. You've both got to give 90% and only take 10%.
2006-10-20 05:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hafsa's answer is the dream, hope that happens
the reality for some is a complete nightmare.
2006-10-20 04:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by head_banger_yyc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is like all things in life the more you put in it, the more you will get out of it
2006-10-20 04:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by blue_eyed_southernman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Prison, No freedom, Constant argueing
2006-10-20 04:42:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋