When chatting, I tell my close female friend that I'm glad she had a good night out-also feel happy for her if she met a boy(possibly pulled). Sometimes I encourage her to make a move on a boy she mentions. Basically when I do this, she always explains herself to me i.e. I went straight home, I didn't go out or pull anyone, I don't fancy him etc....
Even though I'm usually joking around, not being serious (her business anyway).
WHY does she do this???
Advice appreciated
2006-10-20 04:34:49 · 11 answers · asked by Machine 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have kissed once and thats when she decided we would remain friends, nothing more.
Oh yeah-when I mention a girl that’s caught my attention, she DOES encourage me sometimes i.e. advice/tips BUT other times she just changes the subject.
She says that I am attractive,its not my looks, nothing about my personality, she just could not give me a reason why we wouldn't get together.Everytime I suggest we stop meeting up, she tells me to stop being silly and to get that thought out of my head. Is it still wise to see her so often (I do still like her and she knows this,as I've told her)
WHY??
2006-10-20 04:35:36 · update #1
Welcome to the friends zone! we've all been there, the question is are you going to stay there, you see what she likes is a male she is a bit attracted to, and someone who she can confide in, thats the part she really likes, someone who she can talk too. Someone who listens to her, and she feels safe in, but something happened somewhere in the beginning of the relationship to put you over in the friends zone, if you want to get out, spend as much time with her as possible, don't try to set her up with any more guys, tell her things that can been taken two ways, like " I really feel comfortable around you" " hey have I told you that I really enjoy spending time with you" complement her appearance, any of those things says "I like you" with out saying I like you, after a while you can give her the, I just don't want to be friends speech, and your willing to risk your friendship, on your feelings for her.
Good Luck
God Bless
2006-10-20 04:55:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably fancies you either that or is just saving you for a rainy day in other words til she gets a better offer in other words she likes you hanging because shes not yet made up her mind if she wants to be in a relationship or is just to scared you wont have the same feelings back. Id say be upfront sound her out playing games never works just dont second guess be true and honest always worked even if it only stops the confusion
2006-10-20 04:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by dora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she likes you, but she's shy and doesn't want to ruin your friendship. If you did get together and then fell out, she would lose the friend she had. The fact that she changes the subject when you talk about girls shows this! It sounds like she could really fancy you but sometimes it's hard to tell someone close to you something like that! Well, not sometimes... all the time!
2006-10-20 04:38:06 · answer #3 · answered by claire 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This goes out to my friend CHUNKIE! we have been friends for a long time, 7 years to be exact (well, maybe 6) but we met when i told him how much i liked him in the letter i wrote him. he said no. I'd leave candy in his locker, still no. so eventually, (4 years later) I gave up, then we got close, but it was too late! we knew too much about each other. I think shes explaining herself to you because in a way, (just like i felt) she feels if she gets another guy, she's cheating on you. (weird huh?) but on the same token, she wants to give you her space, but doesn't want you to take another oportunity, kinda like, "I can beat on my lil bro/sis, but no one else can" so, maybe this will give you some insight on what the problem is.......
2006-10-20 04:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by mallenmarie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to be blunt mate but, looking at your obsession with this question judging by your previous questions, I would have to guess that it's YOUR PROBLEM and not hers. You need to get over it mate and move on. Your obsession looks as though it's becoming unhealthy.
2006-10-20 04:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop seeing her. Sounds like she's messing your head up a bit. She's given very mixed signals and maybe she doesn't know what she wants herself.
Just don't see her for a while and see what happens.
2006-10-20 04:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by Wafflebox 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She wants you but is unsure of how it would affect your close friendship. You both need to talk it over, and discuss where you see your friendship going - if anywhere.
2006-10-20 04:48:38 · answer #7 · answered by F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm...i think she's just telling you about her date. she's not 'explaining herself' - she's telling you a story. from your additional details, it sounds like she just wants to be friends, but she considers you a good friend, so she doesn't want her attraction to you to ruin your friendship.
2006-10-20 04:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She fancies you. Plain and simple. She wants you to know she didn't pull. Go for it!!!!
2006-10-20 04:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by Emma W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're confused? We're confused as why you keep posting the same question.
2006-10-20 04:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by sarcasticquotemarks 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋