how do you get a stubborn 1 1/2 year old who has been in your bed since the day she was born , in her own room

Question

that is getting her to sleep the whole night in her bed in her room byherself? is it even doable anymore or is it to late, to ever get my bed back

Answer 1

lay her down, turn off the lights, close the door, let her cry. This is a issue that in my opinion never should have started, you need to be the parent and let her know you're in charge not her. I am a strong believer that babys need to sleep in their own beds, that is what they are created for.

Answer 2

You should try putting her to sleep with you in your bed then put her in her own bed. Or laying in the bed, or sitting in the room with her while you read, until she falls asleep. Make sure she has a nightlite and a monitor so that when she wakes up she isn't frightened, and you can hear her. Whatever you decide to do is going to be tough on you. Because you will be the one who has to get up, get out of bed and go in to put her back to sleep. This will not be fun, but after a few nights I think she will soon feel comfortable enough to sleep thru the night. And voila you regain your bed. Definitely doable, people do it everyday, or at least try to. You could also try to incorporate sleeping in her bed into some sort of game, you know how kids like to imitate their parents, you could tell her, bigs girls sleep in their own bed, like mommy does or something like that. Also making sure she is tucked in and has something else to sleep with, (stuffed animal, doll) so she won't feel so alone. Most kids are used to the body heat mommy gives off and they have a sense of security knowing mommy is right next to me after the light go out and it's time to go to sleep. They become comfortable with the habits we started from birth. Habits are meant to be broken and they can. All the best.

Answer 3

Co-sleeping is so common and acceptable all over the world, that it is just the U.S. that has issue with it! To try to teach 'independence' or show your baby that 'you are the boss' by forcing your child to cry it out is ridiculous!

There are a few books you could read, one being a sleep book by Dr Sears. Another is "Good Nights: The Happy Parents' Guide to the Family Bed (And a Peaceful Night's Sleep) by Jay Gordon and Maria Goodavage". You can transition your toddler in a kinder, gentler way than just forcing her to cry it out in her room. Since she's been in your bed, switching her cold turkey might instill distrust in her with you, so definitely do it slowly.

It is unfortunate that people are so militant about babies sleeping in cribs vs sleeping in a family bed. There is no right answer, no one size fits all - trust your intuition and do what you think is right! Good luck.

Answer 4

It's totally doable but not without hassles. Your bed is all she knows, and you provide stability to her by being there so separating her to her own bed now will be tough but you can do it. There's no easy way but consistency. Put her in her new bed after you talked up what a big girl she is now, she will get out of it probably over and over.. and just keep putting her back in it trying to not talk to her each time. It'll be a long couple of nights but she will learn that's her place... good luck!

Answer 5

oh, honey, you really should have done this a long time ago, it would have much easier for you. it's still doable, but it's going to take a lot of work. best way to handle it, a few hours before bedtime, tell her that she's going to sleep in her big girl bed tonight, make it sound really exciting. keep periodically reminding her about it. when it's time to go to bed, put her in it, give her a favorite stuffed animal to hold onto, cover her up, turn on a night light (just in case she may develop a fear of being in the dark alone), and leave the room while shutting the door behind you. there may be lots of screaming tantrums, but the only way this will work is if you stick to your guns and not cave in and let her back in your bed. if she's still screaming after an hour, go back in her room, don't make eye contact, just lay her back in her bed the same way as before and leave again. eventually, she'll get tired and give up. best of luck!

Answer 6

First let's remember it is not her fault she sleeps in your bed.

You need to make her bed a fun place to be start her out with rewards for sleeping the whole night

if she doesn't make it the hole night congrats her on the length of time she was there and try again the next night.

Another idea is stay with her til she falls asleep in her room

Answer 7

You can get your bed back :-) I went through the exact same thing with my son. He never slept in his crib - once I got him a toddler bed he loved taking his naps there but never wanted to sleep in his bed overnight. I put his toddler bed next to mine and he'd sleep through the night. After a few weeks I moved his bed into his room and I would sing to him until he fell asleep. It's been less than a month and now he gets into bed and goes to sleep all by himself. If he wakes up at night he'll stay in his bed and call me until I come in - usually he just needs a hug and a kiss and he's back out until morning. I have to disagree with the people that say to let your daughter cry - I think that babies need to know you are there for them if they need you. If you leave her in her room and she cries, maybe go in and rub her back, or sing to her and leave the room after a few minutes. Keep doing the same thing until she falls asleep. Good Luck! I hope you get your bed back soon!

Answer 8

I started out letting my (now) 18 month old sleep with me, I finally decided to re-take over my bed when he was about 13 months old, We moved into a bigger place, He got his own room, We made sure to put him in bed @ the same time, every night, turn on a night light, give him his cuddly, Shut the door, and let him cry it out, if that's what he was going to do, It was SO hard for me to sit in the living room and listen to him cry, But, I knew it had to be done if I wanted my bed back to myself! After about a week, He got use to it, And now, LOVES sleeping in his own room. :-)

Best of luck!!!!

Answer 9

I HAVE TWO BOYS A 4 1/2 AND A 2 1/2. THEY HAVE ALWAYS SLEPT IN MY BED WITH ME AND OVER THE SUMMER I ATTEMPTED TO MAKE THEM STAY IN THIER OWN ROOM. IT TAKES A LOT OF NIGHTS BUT SOON THEY WILL STAY. GET A NIGHT LIGHT FOR HER, LET HER KEEP HER TV ON TIL SHE FALLS ASLEEP. FOR A WHILE YOU MAY HAVE TO LAY WITH HER UNTIL SHE FALLS A SLEEP. MAKE UP A STORY ABOUT A TEDDY BEAR THAT YOU HAD WHEN YOU WAS A LITTLE GIRL AND TELL HER HOW IT PROTECTED YOU EVERYNIGHT AND HOW YOU WAS NEVER SCARED AS LONG AS YOU HAD THAT TEDDY. AND DO NOT LET UP WHEN YOU START THIS YOU HAVE TO CARRY IT OUT IF YOU GIVE IN THEN SHE'LL NEVER SLEEP IN HER ROOM AND YOU'LL NEVER GET YOUR BED BACK

Answer 10

i had this problem when i was little, you have to bribe her, if she wants something then give it to her if she sleeps in her room the whole night. turn on a tv in her room or get her a night light for light. read her a bed time story. or if none of this works then lay down with her in her own room until she falls asleep, put a pillow where you were so if she rolls over to see if someone is there she will feel the pillow. my brother is like this too and the bribing works really well. good luck.

Answer 11

This is what I did for my oldest son who is now 7. I put a tv in his room and I would lay down with him to watch a short 30 min video of his choice. When movie was over I would get up and for the most part he was asleep in a matter of 10 minutes. Also you might try a lavender bath,lotion or candle to calm. Its just a matter of getting there little bodies to lie still long enough to fall asleep. They think they will miss something.