I don't want to be rude, but I want everyone who wants to say something an opportunity, I just don't want it to be too long because then it will seem too preachy........it is rude to time them?
2006-10-20 04:33:38 · 11 answers · asked by ~2Sxy4u!~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
No its not rude, its your wedding!!! Believe me all of your guests will thank you for putting a limit on the speeches, no one wants to sit hearing 20 people talk about their memories with you. Only a few people should speak and they should be a few mintues 2-3 mintues tops. Try to remember that this is YOUR day and anything you want to do is fine. Let everyone know in advance that if they want to give a speach that they have to be # amount long. Good Luck and remember its YOUR WEDDING
2006-10-20 05:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
It is rude. People want to show their love for you and all you can show in return is a timer? Talk about regretting buying you a wedding gift! Determine before your reception who will speak. Don't have an open mic because people will use that opportunity to say all kinds of things that are either embarrassing, boring or don't have to do with the couple. Try having 5 or less toasts. That way, none of those other things will happen and you won't bore your guests.
2006-10-20 14:10:03 · answer #2 · answered by Molly1015 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That would be kind of rude but I do understand what you are saying so instead of cutting them off maybe before the wedding (and I mean like a couple weeks, in case they are writing out a speech) you could write a letter to each of the speakers or call them and just say something like I have a few speakers and we have a lot of events going on and I really appreciate all that you are doing for _________(put your husband and you down) but we really need to keep the speeches to a minimum if possible. Thanks for your time and help in this matter. Keep it simple. They will understand but yet you don't have to cut them off in the middle of there speech this way when they write there speech they can keep this in mind. Hope this helps out a little bit!
2006-10-20 12:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by glitter3317 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you reserve the best man/MOH speeches for the wedding and ask that if anyone else wants to say something, that they please do so at the rehearsal dinner.
Your wedding should be focused on the union that you have made with your new spouse, not so that everyone can get on stage and have their 5 seconds of the spotlight.
Parents, different story -- they have the right as long as your relationship with them permits. Friends -- they have time to speak at showers, parties, etc.
2006-10-20 12:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is absolutely rude to time them...it's not the Oscar's!
If someone goes rambling on and on, all you can do is smile and bear it....you can't cut them off. No one likes really long speeches at weddings, but there are always those who like to talk....you can't, or shouldn't, do anything about it. That would be so rude.
2006-10-20 11:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be rude to time them.
People will not go on for that much time. They want to get on with things, plus they will be nervous.
For major speeches like the best man and the groom it'll probably be less than 2 minutes each person, and if anyone else chimes in, it'll be like under one minute each person.
It's actually supposed to be sort of a surprise to you that anyone wants to make a speech in your honor. If you tell them ahead of time their speaking time limit, that would be a really control-freak type of gesture.
2006-10-20 23:26:50 · answer #6 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not rude at all!! This is your wedding, everything should be up to you and your fiance. You can politely tell the people who are speaking what you would like. They love you, they won't be upset. Besides, the rest of your guests want to get to the dancing!!!
Congratulations
2006-10-22 21:57:14 · answer #7 · answered by jlynmcclary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no real answer to this one. The truth is that those who will bore the pants off the guests should be limited to a few seconds, whilst those that will genuinely entertain and hold their attention should be allotted longer.
Your dilemma would appear rather to be - not whether you should time them - but which "speakers" you need to tactfully ask to be brief and concise, and which to allow free rein.
2006-10-20 11:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by steven b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh no, that is not rude. Simply tell them that you want to keep the program moving and you want to give everyone an opportunity to speak. It is totally acceptable to do this.
2006-10-20 11:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by Shibi 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
no its not rude and you should also monitor a bit of what they are going to say. Tell everyone that due to time restraints they will only be allowed xxx minutes to say their toast, this way you will save yourselves a lot of embarrassment in the long run with people rambling on about nothing and you being unable to stop them.
2006-10-20 11:37:16 · answer #10 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋