Ok, I have a very close guy friend that is in a triangle. He has an ex-girlfriend that he was with for over a year. Although they love each other dearly, they broke up because the relationship just wasnt going anywhere. They are still very close friends. They've both been dating other people but they still manage to still chill together. Well he started dealing with this new girl that goes to the same church as them. The new girl is kind of jeoulous of the close friendship the ex and my friend has. She told him if they were going to continue seeing each other he would need to stop talking to his ex. To him his ex is not just an ex but a friend. He wants to get to know this new girl but he is not sure if he should give up his friendship for her. (Just a tip, he slept with new girl but has never slept with the ex). What should he do?
2006-10-20 04:30:50 · 10 answers · asked by MonaLisa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
YOUR FRIEND SHOULD NOT GIVE UP A FRIENDSHIP FOR THE SAKE OF A RELATIONSHIP THAT MIGHT NOT WORK OUT. IF THIS NEW GIRL CAN'T UNDERSTAND THAT THEY ARE JUST FRIENDS AND SHE HAS ALREADY SLEPT WITH THIS GUY SHE SHOULD BE CONTENT BECAUSE HE NEVER SLEPT WITH HIS EX SO SHE IS JUST TRYING TO RULE HIS LIFE DON'T LET THAT HAPPEN TO YOUR FRIEND. ATLEAST HE WAS HONEST ENOUGH TO TELL HER THAT HE AND HIS EX ARE CLOSE FRIENDS
2006-10-20 04:36:14 · answer #1 · answered by kkj 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend will be there for you no matter what the situation. So if he truly values her friendship he wont give it up for a girl he just met. Especially if the girl is already trying to decide who he can and cant date. A girl will come along that will understand he has friends, even if it is his ex. And that will be the girl for him.
2006-10-20 04:35:17 · answer #2 · answered by Livin the life.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch the new girl and keep his friendship with Ms X, which could actually still develop in to a deeper relationship...even if not, it is more valuable. Women who dictate who their man's friends can be are selfish and manipulative. He doesn't owe the new girl anything more than the X just because he slept with her.
2006-10-20 04:35:48 · answer #3 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this new girl has no right to tell your friend what to do... she might be jealous, but your friend should make clear that if that's going to be a hindrance in their new friendship (between your friend and the new girl, that is), then they shouldn't see each other at all. it's pretty much unfair, you know... for all three of them...
2006-10-20 04:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by get.real 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay with the friend. if she is asking him to choose between her and the ex/friend, then she isnt the right girl for your friend. if she really cared about him then she wouldnt try to change him or stop him from seeing his friends (even if they were ex's). plus the friend will always be there. the girl probably wont be.
good luck to ur friend and i hope this helped!!!
2006-10-20 04:35:35 · answer #5 · answered by cali_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i will tell you one thing jealousy is a very bad thing to have to deal with.....i would tell this new girl that if she is so insecure that talking with your ex causes problems, then you need to say bye, bye all this will be is trouble...it starts with controlling little things and the next thing you know she will be trying to control everything.....they dont call jealousy the GREEN EYED MONSTER for nothing
2006-10-20 04:36:16 · answer #6 · answered by dollyvg2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he needs to reasure to gf that he likes her and that there is only a friendship between him and his ex
2006-10-20 04:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should just let her know that his ex is his friend and afriend only but let her know that he does want to continue a friendship with her
2006-10-20 04:36:39 · answer #8 · answered by waynekirsten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good friends are hard to find so if she really is a close friend i would tell the new girl to take a hike no one should make you choose between your friends the pussy ain't that good.
2006-10-20 04:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
id stay with the friend
2006-10-20 04:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by Aaron H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋