So I got a call a few days ago , it was my brother in laws ex , she informed me that she was pregnant and due in 3 weeks . She also informed me that they are married ( which we didn't know ).
I told my Mother in law about the baby and she was shocked but I didn't tell her about the marriage because I thought it should come from them .
I am trying to figure out what to do , Lee says the baby isn't his and he wants a DNA but I believe her , the week she got pregnant was the same week they got married . My family says they dont want to have anything to do with the baby until the dna is done , but I think they are missing out , on the birth and everything .
Do you think it is ok for me to be involved and help her out until the DNA comes back ?
2006-10-20 04:27:25 · 7 answers · asked by Zero end 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes. It sounds like you guys werefreinds to begin with
2006-10-20 04:30:14 · answer #1 · answered by R C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be the right thing to do. I applaud you for having a good heart, the world needs more people like you! Just think, if the baby does turn out to be his, how bad will the family feel, knowing how they treated them both- mother and baby? But you can show them the pictures and stuff! And if its not his baby, you could still help out, she sounds like she would need a friend now more then ever!
2006-10-20 11:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you trust her and so does her husband. In this case I feel that his family is wrong regardless of the DNA results. If her husband is not questioning it, then the family has no right to interfer. I have a family member that raised my ex sis-in-law's son as his own, knowing from the time of conception that my nephew wasn't his child. DNA only determines the sperm donor not a father. If your mother-in-law/family can't support your brother& sister in law's decision then they, including the baby, is better off without her in their life. Good luck
2006-10-20 12:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by Ladynole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm currently going through somewhat of a similar situation. Well, it's mostly resolved now, but it was similar: My ex and I found out we were pregnant last year (our baby is 6months old now), and when we told my family-they were ecstatic! However, when we told his family, the outcome was very unexpected. His parents (mostly his mother) refused to acknowldege the fact that I was pregnant, she insisted that we were to get married before she would acknowledge our son as her grandchild. She refused to tell her family (my ex's brother's, cousins, etc.) and I was no longer welcome at their home or any of their family functions, unless of course we were to get married. Needless to say, I was infuriated, hurt, and completely caught off guard! I told my ex that he would have to make a choice: either tell his family, stand-up to his mother, or lose me. He choose to lose me. Of course, his brother's soon found out, and they were all extremely supportive of me, and still are! That has been something that has really helped me out being a new mom, and dealing with all of that. If I were you, I would feel wrong not being involved with your ex-sister-in-law (?). Not only because she choose you to tell-she obviously came to you because she trusts you, but also because you don't want to miss out on your soon to be neice or nephew. Do the right thing: Support her. Be there for her. And let your family know that you're doing it. They'll probably be angry, but in the end-they'll know you're doing the right thing. :) Good luck to you!
2006-10-20 11:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by jenwarfield 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay out of it! Let the family deal with it, it will be okay for you to buy a baby gift. but that should be the extent of it for now.
2006-10-20 11:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your gut instinct and do what you feel is right. She obviously needs a good friend at the moment and it would be nice of you to be there for her.
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2006-10-20 11:40:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are best friend it doesn't matter go with your heart on this one, later it will be bliss
2006-10-20 11:40:07 · answer #7 · answered by blue_eyed_southernman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋