Would you date a guy that when you met him he had a baby on the way, but wasnt involved with the mother but planned on taking care of his responsibility?
Long story short I got invloved with a guy who had a kid on the way and now it's starting to bother me I thought that it wasnt but now that the baby is actually born and I come to see the child mother is crazy and starts a lot of drama I dont want to be bothered. But I feel bad b/c he has strong feelings for me. Do I stick around and see if my feelings will change or move on?
2006-10-20 04:23:00 · 15 answers · asked by Capricorn82 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
honestly I know the situation sounds bad w/ him having this baby and it is wrong what he did. But I dont think he'd do it to me I just feel uncomfortable b/c the baby mama is drama filled and crazy literally!
2006-10-20 04:34:19 · update #1
oh and they were never a couple
2006-10-20 04:35:10 · update #2
I was in that situation and I ended up getting pregnant too. After I had my child I realized he would never change he wanted to be with us both but I wasn't going to have that. i left him and just went on with life two years later I found the man of my dreams and we are now living happily. He still comes around of course to see his son but he's not a true father he's really just my son' friend. Be selfish here if he wanted to be with you and you only we would straight out. He would tell the mother of his child that things have to be done in a certain matter.
Good Luck
2006-10-20 04:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by MIA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has strong feelings for you, he'll take care of the situation. I mean, he can only do so much, but you and he can get the baby and be out of the mother's sight, ya know? She's going to be like that, probably call you out your name and stuff, but it's only because you're with the guy she wanted to be with- and now is stuck with him, being she had his baby and all. I wouldn't let it bother me, but of course, it will get old. That's why I said he would handle it. But hey, it's your life. You don't need the drama, don't put up with it. Talk to him and see what he says. Personally, I wouldn't date a guy with a baby on the way- baby mama drama!
2006-10-20 11:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Britney Spears did it, but ofcourse your not her. My friend got involved with a guy that had a baby on the way, he then got her pregnet and cheats on her with someone else, and wants to leave her. I believe that you should be a biut more consideret. Some men just happend to get there girl pregnet and then bounce for a piece of azz for a bit, and once the baby comes out and he sees he has a child with that women, he might just end up gething back with her and trowing you off on the curve. I personaly think you should try to find a man that dosent have a child on its way. its to comolicated with them, enogh its goin on in there lifes and most of the time there just confuse about this feeling. I think you would be doing yourslef a favore by just moving on.
2006-10-20 11:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by I think of you I touch Myself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind...this could be you some day. You could be the woman he had relations with and dumped when she got pregnant and needed a commitment. He felt that she was good enough for sex, but not good enough to stick around for, and now she is raising his baby alone! You are probably too young to be bothered with this guy's drama. Let him go and count yourself lucky that you listened to your instinct! This drama will be going on for the next 18 years of his life. You do not need that!
2006-10-20 11:27:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a tough situation. The most important thing is to keep open communication with you're boyfriend at all times. I'd give it a little time and then see how the two of you are dealing with it. If you really care for the guy the two of you will work things out.
2006-10-20 11:26:17 · answer #5 · answered by krazy_b81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do 1 of 2 things:
Leave now or
Stick around for him if you feel the same about him as he does you. She is jealous and wants him back so that they can "be a family". She is starting drama to break you two up. If your feelings have already changed, then same yourself the headache tell him the truth, and keep stepping.
Good luck.
2006-10-20 11:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by koko3845 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a difficult one. You will always be playing second fiddle to the mother and baby, if you are OK with this then you should stay, if you want to be number 1 in his life then you should leave. the new mother wil lhave a lot of hormones running around her body she will probably want the baby daddy back and be using all sorts of excuses to spen time with him (baby sick, baby first word etc etc). Although you really should have thought of all of this before going out with him
2006-10-20 11:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by Knowitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can imagine being happy without him, I'd say move on. I wouldn't get involved with a guy with that much baggage unless I was in love with him.
2006-10-20 11:27:31 · answer #8 · answered by Dasher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reality sucks, huh? If you can't handle it, let him go so he can find someone who can. All that denial in the beginning has arrived in family form but it sounds like he cares for you, but don't string him along if you are going to be unkind and jealous.
2006-10-20 11:26:39 · answer #9 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have no feelings for him then just leave him but tell him its cos how you feel and nothing to do with the baby
2006-10-20 11:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by mothertiggy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋