my dad left me when i was like born and i saw himk when i was seven but i dont rember anythink, its been seven years sence iv talked to him or seen him because he lives in south caralina so what should i do
2006-10-20 04:22:48 · 6 answers · asked by silvertonflames 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well its almost Christmas you could start with a Christmas card. Then maybe call on Christmas Eve and just talk for a few minutes and wish him a happy Christmas. This opens up a dialogue(talking) so the two of you have something to start with. What does your Mom think about this? I think she is probably worried that your feelings will be hurt if he doesnt respond. Well if he doesnt respond to you then let it go for a while but keep trying every once in a while. Maybe it wont happen til you are grown but keep the lines open so he can call or write when he can or wants to. So let him know if you move and such. Good Luck with this and I hope it works out for you just remember some grown ups arent all that grown up and not all are good parents. You may need to have a grown up to grown up relationship with your Dad.
2006-10-20 04:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have an address write him a letter.
It is better to write than to pick up the phone and call.
When you write you have time to think about what you want to say and how you want to say it. You can reread it and change things that you have not worded correctly.
If you make a phone call you will catch him off guard and you will both say things off of the top of your head.
Keep the letter short, tell him a bit about yourself and that you would like to have a relationship with him and ask him to write or call you. If you do not hear back wait 6 months and do it all over again. Keep trying as long as you have a way to contact him.
If he does not respond do not take it personally.
If he does respond be polite and do not say things that will make him feel like you blame him for not being there.
Good luck.
2006-10-20 11:45:27 · answer #2 · answered by ebosgramma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look him up and call him...how do you know the circumstances of why he left or was he driven away? Just go easy when you have your first contact with him. Feel things out and if it feels right it probably is. I made the mistake of not talking to my dad for 15 years. Till now im 45 and trying to make up for all that lost time. All because of things I was told that turned out to be lies. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-20 13:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have his mailing address just start writing him letters.
Just tell him things about your life and what you are doing. Keep it light. Good, positive information. Don't worry about whether he replies or not you need to make yourself more "real" to him.
When you have done this you will know because he will reply.
Don't make any demands or ask for anything physical or emotional. Just send him good news about you. Show interest in his life as well.
2006-10-20 11:33:24 · answer #4 · answered by thetaalways 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should try to find his number. At first I haven't seen my dad in 8 and a half years but i saw him last year. I just got tired of waiting to see him so I found his number and called.
2006-10-20 11:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by Crazy K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try tracing your family tree and asking members of your family to see if they can help you he might be trying to find you look on friends reunited
2006-10-20 11:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by boozemonster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋