My dog, Padfoot, and I are very close. He sleeps in my bed every night, and recently with the addition of a new boyfriend in my life, he doesn't get to spend as much time with me. He's reverted back to not being housetrained, to get my attention, and is acting much differently. I've tried to help him adjust as much as I can, but I also want to spend time with my boyfriend with him not trying to get in the middle of us. Suggestions?
2006-10-20 04:20:03 · 19 answers · asked by Melissa A 2 in Pets ➔ Dogs
It's obvious how much your dog loves you - consider yourself a very lucky person!! To keep both in your life (and stay sane at the same time), spend some "quality" time with Padfoot every day. Just the two of you. Do what he likes to do, for example a walk at his favourite place, a drive, a walk to the local pet food store to buy his some of his favourite treats (they usually let dogs in on leash which is a huge treat in itself!). Make sure Padfoot knows that he is going to get one on one time with you and this isn't going to stop. Next, slowly introduce your new boyfriend. Have your boyfriend come over, and you leave for a 20 minute or so walk - have your boyfriend sit with Padfoot, give him a treat, that sort of thing. When this seems to start going well, introduce a walk with yourself, your boyfriend and Padfoot, but make sure you continue the walks you take that consist of just the two of you). That way Padfoot gets to see that he can be part of this new arrangement occasionally, and also realize that what you and he had isn't over. Good luck - it will work out, you just need to give it some time.
2006-10-20 05:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Padfoot is your dog - not your boy friend's. It will take time before your dog adjusts to this newest change, therefore, that is why he is reverting back to old habits. He has always had your full attention and now he doesn't. Animals can always sense who likes them and who doesn't - maybe he senses something in your new boy friend that he just doesn't like. Does your new boy friend like the dog? If so, then he needs to also spend time with the dog to make him feel he is not being ignored. Both of you need to spend more time with the dog to make him feel he still has a place in your life and then he'll stop his bad habits.
2006-10-20 04:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often when a dog changes behavior like that it's not because of the lack of attention or because he's mad, it's because you have changed his routine and he is missing that structure. You can easily overcome this by re-establishing a routine for your dog (even if it is different from what he was previously used to). While you do this, you should consider either crating your dog, or confining him to a room in your house to help with the housebreaking issues. This will also add to the structure in his life. Make sure also that with some of your attention to your boyfriend, your dog is still getting plenty of exercise! Good luck!
2006-10-20 04:27:24 · answer #3 · answered by Stephanie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mulder is jealous of the interest you supply the boyfriend, so he competes with him even as he's there. the answer is to make your boyfriend portion of the %. (that's from the dogs's perspective). He can calm his rigidity and jealousy through spending time with him. Have your boyfriend take him on walks, feed him, and the three of you need to bypass to dogs park and play jointly, or play on your outdoor jointly once you've one. an exceedingly cool aspect might want to be for you and your boyfriend to take a domestic dog practise classification with Mulder. Then all 3 of you'll approaches to act round one yet another. that's no longer basically the dogs right here. after all, the better high quality time he spends including your dogs, the faster Mulder's rigidity and feeling threatened will bypass away even as he's there. strong success.
2016-10-16 05:43:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend needs to make Padfoot his pet, too. The dog probably feels left out. Have your boyfriend feed him his meal & give him treats. Include Padfoot in your activities, too.
2006-10-20 04:28:38 · answer #5 · answered by Didi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe have you BF get more involved with Padfoot. Take him to a dog park or somewhere with the 2 of you. Also have your BF bring him a treat when he comes over. They should be fine.
2006-10-20 04:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend time together....take your bf and bring dog to the park to play. Let the BF feed your dog and give the dog treats (pretend that it is a secret between them) and have your bF give the dog a new toy that they can play together. It may take a little bit of time but then your dog and bf will be buddies. Also let your dog participate in some special time with you without the bf to show that you are still mom and you love him.
2006-10-20 04:24:11 · answer #7 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dog is just trying to say "this is my place" with the accidents,,, so they are not accidents. While your dog needs to get to know your boyfriend, the dog also has to learn that it is number 3 in the house instead of number 2
2006-10-20 04:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by tom l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to give him plenty of attention and maybe get ur boyf to take him out for a walk by himself and give him his food and treats etc, that way he may start to like the thought of having ur new boyfriend around, also make sure you give him lots of attention when hes good and does his business outside but when he does it inside make sure you let him know an punish him. Good luck, i went through the same once but it will get better.
2006-10-20 04:24:20 · answer #9 · answered by foxylovablegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dog did the exact same thing, but he eventually grew out of it. My boyfriend made a point to pay attention to my dog, show it love, play with it, etc....now my dog just loves my boyfriend! Good luck!
2006-10-20 05:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by tkeppers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋