I'm with a guy who obviously loves me, he's completely my type, and I've never fell inlove with someone this much.
Although, he is extreemly highly payed but works on contract. He smokes and take things he shouldn't, and likes to stay home most of the time...and that's my only problem with him.
Another guy is a CEO of a big company, a celeb in a sertain industry, and he loves me excessively, took me to extreemly expensive restaurants, spa, holiday, resort...he's a big fun and I was completely pampered. We got separated because I couldn't really feel a strong sexual appeal from him, and he was just all over me. But we are good friends for 3years now.
My bf now has invited me to his familly Xmas this year. First time ever to invite someone, he says. The latter guy is still in love with me. He would do anything to make me happy...
Now that I'm 27, I do want to get married and have kids soon...I'm wondering if I should follow love and be unstable in money, or follow wealth...
2006-10-20 04:01:44 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The thing I want to point out is, that this rich guy is very very into me, and he is aggreeing in my dream to open a bar restaurant in London...he would be my sponser and all...geez...
I also want my child to enter an international school, and that's not cheap!
2006-10-20 04:10:34 · update #1
you don't been with either, although this will probably be an unpopular opinion. You are stringing both guys on the first guy (your boyfriend) obviously ardour's you if he whats to take you to meet his parents and the other guy is waiting in the wings for you, knowing that you enjoy the life style he can give you.
The fact that you are asking us which one to chose means that you have not meet the right one. If you had money wouldn't be a factor.
Just remember it is not always better to be in a relationship for stability, you should provide that for yourself. A man or partner in an bonus in life and one that should be treated fairly and not dragged in to the who can do more for me game you are currently playing.
Where you stay in your relationship or not is down to you alone, but you must decide soon. Because people deserve to be in relationships with people who love them and not people who use them.
2006-10-20 04:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not yet ready to make this decision. However from your words- "he obviously loves me, he's completely my type, i've never loved someone this much," it seems like you are with the right one. Please wait until after the winter season to choose. Enjoy Xmas with your boyfriend, and imagine what it would be like to be a part of his family. Talk to your man about your wish to have children, and maybe he will realize that it is time to quit smoking and using whatever and to work more steadily, so he can have a healthy family with you.
Since you are in love with someone else, the CEO should be only a friend and not some fallback guy you keep in love with you. Trust me, the one with more money may cherish you now, but if he knows you chose him for security he will feel unloved sooner or later, and you will feel his resentment and distrust. In other words, he will no longer care if you are happy and will not be as much fun to be around. So keep your ex as a friend, but make sure you are not stringing him along -give him a real chance to move on. Then, you can truly dedicate this time of your life to the relationship you are now in.
2006-10-20 04:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by beautypsychic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know i think its shallow of you that your looking at your life in the sense of marry for love or money....
I would ask you to ask yourself the pro's and con's of each man... and who your heart lies with... regardless of what they can or cant offer you...
I left a man who was easily worth 6 mil... for a guy that is on a low wage and has a child!!! which is with him nearly full time!! and i have to be honest with you... ok no longer am i whisked away here there and everywhere in a helecopter for short breaks and romantic meals!!! instead i am 100% truly content with who i chose... and my life... even though i struggle with money at times...
as they say.... Money cant buy you love... dont let this shaddow of excitment bring you away from someone you obviously really care about...
Take care my love and dont rush your decision... Good Luck
2006-10-20 04:36:02 · answer #3 · answered by Cat ( " , ) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look in both your heart and head simulataneously and make your decision based on if your heart and mind agreeing together.(ex. if your heart says I love him and your head says but.... then it's the wrong choice. If your heart and head says I love him and he loves me this feels right ....then it's the right choice.) Don't let money or looks direct your decision, because looks fade and the one with the money could leave you high and dry. Count on yourself when it comes to the finances, if you make enough to live on and get by that's all that matters. No one will ever take care of you down the road better than yourself.
If you happen to become one of the lucky few who are pampered and financially secure in a relationship then that's extra gravy!!!!!
2006-10-20 04:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by "N"saysable 1iric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Picture life everyday. If you are with someone you love, you will be much happier even though it's harder financially. The old adage, money can't buy happiness is true. You will need to deal with this person everyday, I would rather be with a person I love and that make me feel great rather justifying not being with someone I love because of nicer possessions/money. Bottom line, follow your heart, not your checkbook.
2006-10-20 04:10:13 · answer #5 · answered by Bucky for Prez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always need to follow your heart on decisions like this. Just because someone makes more money it doesn't mean that you will be happier with them. The thing I would think about in the relationship that you're in is you say that he takes things that he shouldn't. If he's on drugs do you really want to force yourself to be in a relationship with him because that will bring a whole nother load of problems with it and do you really want to bring a child into that?
2006-10-20 04:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is who do you love, regardless of whether or not they love you and have money? There you will find your answer. It may be neither of them. And if you don't love either of them, just love what they represent to you, than you are getting into the relationship for the wrong reason anyway. You know they both love you. Think they wish the same from a spouse? Someone who loves who they are, not just what they are?
2006-10-20 04:05:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money will be helpful, but do realize that the wealth takes time to produce. He may be able to lavish things on you, but may not be able to spend the time with you after he's won your heart and you get married.
Don't just follow your heart blindly, though. Consider your future and your families future (if you plan on having children). A man who is committed to you can be a wonderful father too.
2006-10-20 04:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What sort of woman is that goes with a man just for money? If you married the rich fellow you would be a whore who is in it just for what she could get, who opens her legs to him joylessly and has no morals exept for an Amex card balance. If this is what you want to be, to inherit the world but lose your soul, then do it. But if you want love, a lot more complicated and awkward but which will fulfil you, then you know what to do.
2006-10-20 06:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How are you going to have a healthy relationship with the second guy if he has no sexual appeal to you. Stick with the first guy, just try get him to stop taking whatever he is taking. But think about it, if you were really in love with him like you say, you wouldnt even be asking yourself this question!
2006-10-20 04:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋