is it bad for a 17 (almost 18) year old girl to be seeing a 35 year old man who she works with? like would that be really looked down upon by society?
2006-10-20 03:52:10 · 14 answers · asked by ashesanne 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
It would depend on how mature they are. Some girls at 18 are ready for life more so than men at 40.
2006-10-20 03:57:57 · answer #1 · answered by short stack 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First off, "office romances" are a horrible idea because if the relationship doesn't work it leaves the job site very uncomfortable.
Second of all, anyone in their right mind that knows that you are a minor will turn this man in! It is illegal, yes you are close to 18 but you aren't...
This man has more life experiences than you, think about it he is twice your age. He knows how to wine and dine a young woman and manipulate her and make her feel good enough to probably get her to do anything he wants. If you were in your 30's and he was in his 60's you would have at least enough experience behind you to handle situations a little better and with more knowledge to back your choices. You haven't even had the chance to cross the stage of life let alone college. This guy has to much baggage for a 17 year old... Yes by 35 we all have baggage....
Dump this guy get a job somewhere else.... its for the best... speaking from experiences of my own
2006-10-20 11:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At your age, you can probably find a lot to like in an older guy. But 35 is really too old, especially if you think this might be for the long term.
There are many successful relationships where the age difference is that much, but society does prefer ages to be closer. The age disparity adds an extra burden to your relationship.
He should not be dating you if you are under 18. But no reason you cannot be friends, except for when the hormones kick in.
2006-10-20 11:03:03 · answer #3 · answered by m15 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Beware he is taking advantage of your youth and innocence. just walk out of this relationship as it will not materialize into anything better. he might just be using you. u cannot possibly marry him for once you are out of this infatuation age, then you'll start realising that your teenage fantasies were only initially pampered by him. in the long run, you might come across other young men who would suit you better and have your similar wavelength of thinking.
you would suddenly realise a generation gap between this older man and you, and this would make life miserable for both of you, since he would start suspecting you of seeing other younger men and having other affairs. this would lead to a heart break and a final split or might even have you shattered and broken hearted, if u were really faithful and it was just his insecurity that he was suspecting and spying on you.
but it will be too late by then. so better get over with it NOW, before it is too late. you might even try changing your job and find a younger man in your life. it could be a bit difficult to forget him initially and he will try to get u back or keep bothering u. but try not to give in to the pressure and u r sure to succeed.
if what u r looking for from this man is fatherly affection, then maybe u should speak to your mother or father about it. probably they'll understand u much better.
dont bother about being looked down by society. its about 'U'. its your life. how you will feel down the years. will YOU be really happy with that relationship. if u think that what i have predicted might possibly happen, then u should take my advise also, just to protect your precious self.
good luck and God bless you my dear.
2006-10-20 11:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its wrong for you and him to be seeing each other. for any reason because of working together. He needs to grow up and decide what he wants from life. first.... You do not have anything in common with him nor does he have anything in common with you......First think about why he is seeing you in the first place. Bet its more for you body than anything else....... second if he has not approached you about it . then you are just friends and will be hurt in the long run... so better if you keep your distance from him and find someone more your age...
2006-10-20 11:04:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just tickled pink about the novelty of the whole idea, but when the dust settles down, 80 %, you will realize you are doing the wrong thing. Before it is too late, turn your attention to boys of your own age.
2006-10-20 11:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Too much age difference. They have nothing in common. It's only about the sex for him. Why else would a man date a girl young enough to be his daughter?
2006-10-20 10:56:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
this man is old enough to be your father and therefore should be mature enough not to take advantage of this circumstance
however now that it apparently has happened, done is done
you are simply being used to feed his ego and regardless of what he says, nothing more
get out while you can - learn from this lesson - be leary of any man 5 years old and older than you
best wishes Hon!
2006-10-20 11:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by Marsha 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My Opinion, Yes. It is not going to amount to anything. It can only end in tears. Even if he wasn't that old you shouldn't be mixing your personal life with buisness. Nothing good ever comes out of it.
2006-10-20 10:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Sammee 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he is to old for you. you don't have nothing in common. I know this woman who married a man much older and they hardly spend time together. they come from to different worlds apart. if he sleeps with you and your parents find out he can be arrested for rape. he is old enough to be your father.
2006-10-20 10:54:42 · answer #10 · answered by lover of Jehovah and Jesus 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋