At 9 I was diagnosed witha condition called GYNAECOMASTIA. This is when boys grow breasts.
This condition absolutely killed me psychologically. I had to grow up for almost 10 years with breasts. I got teased in school, and I especially despised Physical education.
As you can probably guess, i had no chance of attracting a girlfriend, and inevitably I became very shy around girls.
All the doctors that I saw told me that it was more common amongst boys than I thought, but they also all insisted that I could not have an operation to remove the breast tissue untill I turned 18.
At 18 I had the operation to get them removed, but I was left with scars on my chest.
I am now 25, and I'm going out with a girl. I haven't told her about it yet, and I dont want her to get freaked out when she sees my scars. What should I say?
Ladies, would you think of a guy with chest scars, would it freak you out. could you see yourself with a guy with scars on chest.
What should I tell her
2006-10-20 03:45:43 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it wouldn't bother me at all, everyone has things that they don't like about there bodies.
Yours is perfectly normal, just remember she's probably a lot more worried about her body and what you might think of it.
She obviously likes you if she's going out with you so, enjoy the experience.
2006-10-20 03:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by Heather 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. It's not that big a deal. My husband has a heart condition and has scars on his chest from surgery. It doesn't bother me in the least.
You don't necessarily have to tell her what surgery you had or what condition you had. Not right away any. Let her discover the scars on her own and when she asks tell her you had to have surgery to have a congenital growth defect corrected. That's all true. If you are uncomfortable telling her what condition you had, you don't have to until your relationship is more stable. If she asks what condition you had, simply tell her that you are uncomfortable talking about it because it brings up horrible memories. (Again this is true) Promise to tell her someday. She should be understanding of this.
2006-10-20 03:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by bubb1e_gir1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are probably insecure and still unsure about yourself because of the life time of teasing and bullying you have endured but a scar is nothing. I have a large deep scar on my abdomen from an operation I had when I was younger. I used to hide it away and be afraid to show it. However, one day I realised that this scar was nothing to be ashamed of. It was something to be proud of. I'm aware of how cheesy this sounds but to me if was a symbol of strength. I got through that operation and all that pain and I survived. Your scars are the same. You got through those bad times and you survived too. You should not be ashamed to show this. My boyfriend doesn't even see my scar any more but he has said in the past he loves it because its part of me and it makes me even more special. Hope this helps.
2006-10-20 04:01:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too am a keloid former. Have some on my chest and my shoulders from the combo of acne and football in high school. The key is to find a girlfriend who you are compatible with and who is going to love you for you. You say you are getting them treated, it will take away a lot of the coloration and you will find they are not as pronounced as you think over time. Good luck and keep your chin up. P.S. Been married for almost two years, I'm 25
2016-03-18 22:11:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be honest with her about your whole deal. If she can't accept you and your scars then she is not a real women. She for sure is not for you. A real women won't care about silly scars. We have many of our own to deal with..L..
2006-10-20 03:52:58 · answer #5 · answered by ben and lisa h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all- just say you had an op when you were younger- u dont need to go into the ins and outs of it!
A few scars shouldnt matter as its the person that counts and if she is weird over it then get rid as she is shallow!
2006-10-20 04:25:57 · answer #6 · answered by Scots lass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this girl truely loves you she wouldn't give a toss about your scars.
Just tell her the truth of how you got them,if you can post all about them on here,i'm sure you can tell her.
Yeah i would date a blokes with scars.
Good Luck!
2006-10-20 03:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's freaked about it then she's superfitial and not worth it. A true woman who loves you dearly will except you however you are.
I dig scars... most of my fave characters have really cool scars and i think they're hot.
2006-10-20 04:31:26 · answer #8 · answered by Joanna C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would date a man with scars, but I would want to know the truth of where they came from. It could make you closer having this conversation.
2006-10-20 03:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ritz C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be ashamed or worried by the scars, it just happened and there is nothing you can do about it. If the girls says anything nasty about them, run like hell, cause she doesn't seem to know that beauty of the body eventually disappears, but the beauty of your mind and soul never will.
Think of it this way: If she doesn't like brown, should you apologize to her, explain anything or be ashamed for having brown eyes?
2006-10-20 03:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by whole_world_refugee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋