there's a guy that I'm totally feeling and everything is just great with us, but he lives with his ex girlfriend, (who is also his best friend), and sometimes they sleep in the same bed, and I think that they are having sex..what do I do about this situation? we aren't going out yet. Is there any thing I can do that wont compromise what we've started?
2006-10-20 03:44:00 · 19 answers · asked by apple seed contour 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
everything you just told us you tell him.tell him whats on your mind.
2006-10-20 03:46:31 · answer #1 · answered by CuriousJorge07 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure about the entire ex-girlfriend thing. If he lives with her, and sleeps in her bed, and they're "best friends"??? He is probably not over her, and his feelings might be reserved. So, there might not be space for you in his heart while he is pre-occupied with someone else.
But, since you're not his girlfriend, you cannot tell him to change living situations. Although, you could let him know that if things continue with the two of you, you wouldn't feel comfortable with him living with her. While you're at it, ask him where you guys stand, and maybe if you are feeling gutsy ask him if him and his ex still have sexual relations.... See what he says, if he gets really defensive that might be a bad sign. But if he is calm and understands, it might be worth it to hold on.
2006-10-20 10:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by Fran Y 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a problem then the only way you can solve it is by telling him. Simple as that. Before you tell him say if something were bothering me, I would be able to tell you right? Without there being any problems? Cause I don't want it to ruin what we have. Since you guys are in a serious relationship well theres not much you can do on your part its up to him. If he doesnt want to stop living with her than tell him he should at least be honest with you about what kind of relationship him and his ex have. Also ask him how would he feel if he were in your possition.
2006-10-20 10:50:40 · answer #3 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself if this is the type of situation that you want to involve yourself with. If you are ready to take it to the next level with this guy, be upfront and honest with him. If you are looking for a steady relationship where the two of you only have sex with each other, let him know that is what you are looking for. He will either be honesty with you are give you one of two answer: he will stop sleeping with his ex or that he doesn't want monogamy right now. Y
ou then have to respect his decision and then decide what you will do with yourself. If he will discontinue with his ex, great. If he will not let her go (sex) then you know that he is not the man for you because the right man for you will be willing to stop having sex with other girls so that he can be with you.
2006-10-20 10:49:50 · answer #4 · answered by truly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I let you in on a little secret, sometimes men say that the woman they live with is an ex - but that's not the truth. See he's just telling you that because he's trying to hook up with you on the side.
So, you should stay very far away from that liar. M'kay?
2006-10-20 10:48:08 · answer #5 · answered by Vicki B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What ? Are you serious ? He lives with her and sometimes sleeps in the same bed ?? Why would you even put yourself in this situation and deal with this. Way too weird for me.
2006-10-20 10:52:31 · answer #6 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say this outloud and really listen to yourself when you say it. thats not his ex, they are still together. if they are sleeping in the same bed, you know they are having relations. if you think they are then you know they are. not much you can do, you said you arent going out yet so its not your place to say anything. just what type of relationship do you guys have?
2006-10-20 11:41:51 · answer #7 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not going out yet so you really cant say much on the matter but as it goes along and you get more into eachother you can. you have to be astablished first that you are seeing eachother and then its ok to say something but absolutely not untill then. you dont have any basic rights over the issue untill then. if he doesnt after yous get together, then tell him no way and find someone that doesnt want to have their cake and eat it to.
2006-10-20 10:51:45 · answer #8 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him! This is so typical of guys, having their cake and eating it too! If he gives you a lame excuse or refuses to change the situation, find another guy to invest your feeling into.. maybe change the tables on him and use him as a f**k buddy :)
2006-10-20 10:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by dollface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah start sleeping with a guy in your bed
2006-10-20 10:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he dont move out of his ex gf's or house its over !Cause u dont want him to cheat on u if yall start dating !
2006-10-20 10:46:18 · answer #11 · answered by H0TTCHiCK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋