i love my boyfriend and he's supposed to come over until i finish my qualification. unfortunately, he's no longer sure about that. i don't want to waste any more time waiting around. i've already rejected at least ten guys within this year alone. my social life is close to nil as most of my friends are pursuing their studies overseas. we only get to spend a few weeks together every few months. i have two more years before i can qualify and i'm already working a very stressful corporate job that leaves me little time to socialize. i want to come home to someone and not phone calls. worst of all, when i feel crappy and need to talk, the time zones prevent that. should i leave this relationship?
2006-10-20 03:41:04 · 5 answers · asked by janicebks 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds to me like you have already made up your mind as to what you want to do. Apparently, you don't really really care about this guy enough to wait for him. You need to do what you think is right. If you really like him, wait for him. If you would rather see these other people, that's what you need to do.
2006-10-20 03:56:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here's a few things I noticed based on your situation.
First, you said he's no longer sure about coming over until you finish your qualification. It seems like he is not as committed to the relationship as you if he is second guessing his coming to be with you.
Second, you said the relationship was a year long. Although it is quite a feat to maintain a relationship that long, it is not something that could not be achieved again. If you have doubts and urges to be with someone else, then maybe you should follow your callings and find someone else to be with.
Long distance relationships are hard on both parties. It takes 100% dedication to maintain them. Even with that, the distance can get to be too much. It's up to you to decide what is the most important thing for you. If you think that your relationship with him can work out when you're finally together, then that's great. However, part of the process is getting there and if you think your relationship will suffer until you get to that point, perhaps it's not the best thing to continue.
I wish you the best of luck!
2006-10-20 03:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by b-rad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely...Break it off now. If after things are settled, you get together and start dating (in the SAME city), and you want to pursue a relationship, go ahead, but long distance relationships are not based on reality in any way.
No matter how long you mess around long distance, once you are together, you will see how the other person really is on a daily basis, and it is NEVER what you thought it would be. You have to be near the person for it to work. No exceptions.
End it right now.
2006-10-20 03:47:28 · answer #3 · answered by gg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should. You need to think..how awful it would be if you break up when you start your job and then you will look back and really wish you had done the things you could do when you were young, I always think of that...lifes too short!
2006-10-20 03:44:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jenni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
According to me,u shud go n pursue yr studies..u can't sacrifice yr career..PLZ,talk to him n find a way..if u r studying abroab btw gona come back,ask him if he will wait for u,BTW,if u gona settle overseas,ask him if he can settle down wid u there....Its a delicate situation,fink well n PLZ,TALK TO HIM B4 TAKING ANY DECISION.........
2006-10-20 03:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by Glamorous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋