I live in a small town with my grandparents and work full time. When i say small i mean like under 4000. There are nothing but High schoolers here, im 22, and i dont have anyfriends. There isnt anything wrong with me mentaly, maybe just depression sometimes, but my life is so boring, its so bad im wishing for a disaster. The closest city is 75miles away. What do i do? i know im unhappy because i have no social life. What should i do?
2006-10-20
03:39:17
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i graduated from college
2006-10-20
03:47:21 ·
update #1
i do i help my grandparents all the time, and i work with one OLD GUY, its frustrating, im stuck...im the nicest guy in the world stuck in a hell.
2006-10-20
04:15:00 ·
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Well Move out. Go be free. Go to college. You are just really bored
2006-10-20 03:41:39
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answered by Anonymous
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Well I can understand, because I moved from a big city to a small town of 1,500. The nearest city is an hour away. I do have a wonderful family living here too. Like u I don't have much of a social life, but i make due. If you have siblings, they can be all you need; if you are working, make friends there. If either of those don't apply to u, just remember that you being comfy with yourself and knowing what you like to do in your spare time is a start. Socialize with people in your local town. With 4,000 people in your town, you will eventually find friends or something more, if giving a little effort. Sometimes you will find that having friends isn't all what it is worked up to be. Keep you're head up and remember the only true happiness is within yourself. Friends and girlfriends are just an added bonus too your happiness, but only true happiness comes from inside. If you don't like something about your life, change it. Life is too short to be unhappy. Also visit that city, just don't drink and drive back home. Go to local events and festivals, read a good book, or pick up another hobby. Good luck and remember that your life is what you make it.
2006-10-20 11:14:45
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answered by lil momma 1
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Life is too short to be bored. Spend time at the library, read a good book, go to church, get involved helping others and you won't have time to wish for a disaster. Learn to know yourself. Spend quality time with your grandparents. They would love a game of cards or checkers or make a cake.Just think how much safer you are there and not in some big city where they have drive/by shootings and a lot of crime. You are very lucky and be of good cheer, Thank God someone loves you.
2006-10-20 10:54:45
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answered by short stack 3
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*points to first answer*
"collage" lol.
anyhow, move man. get the hell out of town. i grew up in a town of only 5,000 people and it was so boring. I left there at 20 and moved to Indy. Now there is something fun to do every weekend. I seriously can't tell you how fun it is to never run out of things to do. I know in a small town, the fun thing to do is go hang out at the car wash or whatever parking lot you have there (I know you have one) In a large town there is no such thing as a parking lot to just sit and talk stupid ****. Night life here is fun. There is something for everyone and a lot of things for all. Last week I went to the cheese cake factory and then to a movie (the departed) this week We're (my wife and I) are going to a dance club and out to eat. Not to mention the shopping, We still go to 'walmart' but now we can go to speciality stores to and in most cases its cheaper. I went to a place that sold pots and pans and bought a bunch of t-fal stuff for a really cheap price. The last thing that you will benifit is making more money. We doubled our ncome here and halfed our workforce. in other words we only have one of us working at a time(the other stays at home with the kids) and we have twice as much money as when we both worked. Move man, seriously, you're family will get use to the idea and you will be so happy you did it. I see my mother more now than I did when I lived 5 miles from her(now 86 miles) because I can afford to. I don't worry about spending my grocery money on gas anymore because this city pays so well, I can have both. Move man, do it now and don't look back.
2006-10-20 11:19:39
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answered by Anonymous
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Why not cultivate friendship with older ones. Honestly, since I was your age, I rather be around older ones. No baloney with them and they can be a lot of fun. Gone on vacation with them and had a ball. If you don't like older ones at all then maybe save up, look for a job in the city or so, but the city can be just as cruel also because people are so busy they have no time for friends.
2006-10-20 10:43:29
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answered by Pinolera 6
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Do you have other family located elsewhere - maybe you could move in with another family member and/or look in the paper for someone that is looking for a roommate. Go to you family doctor and ask who you could talk to - don't settle for talking to your family doctor - Talk to some sort of counselor or psych doctor. It will help a lot. I think you need to venture out into the world and have life experiences that will bring you new insight/hope/experiences, etc... You just need encourgement to help you along the way and a counselor will help you do that. I hope this helps.
2006-10-20 10:45:58
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answered by Kim W 1
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Why dont you take a break in this boring life and go someplace? Or dont you enjoy anything, sports, hobbies etc? take a break!!! Besides writing to friends, cycling eases my tension especially outdoors in the woods try that. try to find pleasure in your work if not look for other opportunities. But most importantly practice doing something for others eg your grandparents - wholeheartedly for there's more happiness in giving than in receivng
2006-10-20 11:11:50
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answered by girlfunny 3
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Well, do you work with anyone you age or a little older? Maybe a single guy you could hang out with? Or a single girl you can hang out with? There has to be someone around that you can be friends with. Are there any local night clubs? Even if the bar scene is not your thing, you might meet someone there.
2006-10-20 10:53:58
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answered by LittleLady 5
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Well, go somewhere like hobby places that fits your interest deeply and in return your meet people like you. Your have easy conversation. Possibly, you just need to get out in the distance and find those people . Instead, of thinking your lonely and sitting there alone . Your be alone. You can fix loneliness. It's not perment. It's mendable. Unless, you wanna stay with animal friends all your life lol. JK. :) Sure, your do fine.
2006-10-20 10:49:31
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answered by racheliskewlnyer 1
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Start looking for employment in another city and move. You can always visit your grandparents on weekends, but you need to get on with your life and be around people your age.
2006-10-20 10:45:31
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answered by pans_insanity 1
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Maybe chatting on the Internet. Visiting some out of town relatives. Hope this helps!
2006-10-20 10:43:25
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answered by It's MEEEE!!!! 5
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