how can i develop a very close relationship with my children?

Question

i have three lovely kids.could you please tell me how i can develop a very open,loving and trusting relationship with my children. i didnt have this type of relationship with my parents and i dont want
that with my children. ni want us to be close.i want them to trust me more than any other person.please help me out.

Answer 1

Have good communication with them. Start out with small stuff like how was your day. Let them know that they can talk with you about anything. Don't get mad or angry especially with the small stuff they tell you, that can come later when they are teenagers. Just be persistent in letting them know you are there for them if they need you.

Answer 2

While everyone says spend time with your children, it's a difficult thing to actually practice with all of the distractions that we face as adults and parents. From the minute I get home at from work, I focus on my twins, sometimes they want me to draw something for them, or play dinosaur, or wrestle, or read a book or take the dogs for a walk. We do it as soon as possible, without distractions like the newspaper or the mail or the message machine interfering with and delaying our interactions. Sometimes they just want me to sit with them while they play with trains or their toys. I think that the concept of "quality time" from many years ago, that you could focus your attention in brief spurts of energy, is a ridiculous euphemism. Children want attention and when you give it to them whole heartedly the bond grows very strong. Further, you'll find that, while it can be tiring and frustrating (I'm often the referee) most of the time it is fun, hilarious, moving and rewarding for you too. Good luck.

Answer 3

I feel the same way you do 100%
I have a 3 1/2 boy and we are close, daddy calls him mommas boy, just be consistent as a parent, everyday. EVERYDAY
Teach them, read to them, have fun and get messy with them but enforce parenting when they are out of line and give them love and when it's time they will always go to mom. Be understanding and listen and don't scream.

Answer 4

You love them with all your being... I have 2 children and I don't know if it's healthy, but I always put my children first, they were the most important thing in my life. They are grown now which is why I say were, but I believe if they truly know how much you love and respect them, the rest falls into place. Oh yes, and always listen to them, no matter how unimportant it is, someday it may be extremely important so you'll be ready.

Answer 5

I think that talking to them, not just as a parent and authority figure but as a confidante, is very important in building that relationship you seek. In talking to them, explain why things are the way they are (IE: if they need to be scolded, explain why in simple and rational terms). If you encourage communication with them and treat them with respect and trust, I think that it will help. They are simply small people, you know? Try to avoid condescension and irritation at their lack of experience in the world. They may not always understand what you say, but they will feel the emotion behind your words.

Keep in mind, they must be allowed to flounder a bit on their own to fully appreciate the value of being able to come back to you and bear the burdens of their missteps or celebrate their victories with you. (Try not to stifle this in them as you try to protect them from the rest of the world). This may be the most difficult part of parenting -- allowing your kids to make mistakes and to learn from them. But, trust that you have provided them with the abilities to have sound judgment and let them know that you will always be there for them. Trust them as you seek to be trusted.

Answer 6

One advice that can change your life to better - buy the book "Positive Discipline" by Jane Nelson.Here is how to develop very good relationship and also how to discipline kids with love.

Answer 7

it extremely is loopy. 4 years isn't too enormous of a gap to your babies to be close. There might nicely be 10 years distinction and that they might nevertheless be close. it honestly relies upon on the youngsters and their personalities and despite the fact that if or no longer they gets alongside or no longer.

Answer 8

First get off here and spend time with them. Talk to them, read to them, play with them. Just spending lots of time and attention on them. And seriously don't stay on the computer too much.

Answer 9

Hug them. Love them. Be kind to them always.

Answer 10

spend time with them...basically do everything your parents didn't do with you that you wanted them to do...be there for them...give them space when they need it...being there for your kids doesn't mean buying them off and spending money on them