im in a fight with my father and he is threating to kick me out if i dont drop my attitude. im only 17 but i have places to go. i really dont want to leave because im really close to my brother who is 7 and i know if i leave they wont let me see him and he wont be able to see me. should i go and let my brother be dealt that pain or should i stay and be dealt the pain of being called a ***** and suck it up for my brother? i was wondering if youve ever dealt with this kind of stiuation and if what happened if you have. was everything okay in the end and did your family forgive you?
2006-10-20 03:28:11 · 8 answers · asked by rudi trudi phoenix gordon 7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If your are being abused and have a safe place to live then you should go. However, if you will be hopping from house to house to house...without a new permenent address then you should remain at home until you do. Your brother is being hurt everyday when he sees you being called names. He will understand but he will miss you.
I recently took in a 17 year old girl to live in my home because her mother was verbally abuse as well as physically abusive. She was doing poorly in school due to a lack of regular meals and sleep although she worked hard cleaning houses,businesses, and churches to earn money she never saw a penny of it. Her mother kept it all.
She moved in and her mother became violently angry as most parents would when their child leaves. However she was more angry about not having her daughter there to do her work. She nearly missed her last chance to take summer courses so that she could graduate next year. Her mother didn't care if she didn't graduate. It is difficult for the young lady we took in because she loves her mom. However, since she has been away from the daily abuse; she has thrived. She is on the honor roll and is getting healthy. Keep in mind that in the state I live in a 17 year old is considered an adult and can legally move out without being forced to move back home. If you don't live in such a state; your father can charge you with running away. If you do this enough you can be arrested and taken into the states custody as a habitual runaway. On the other hand if he tries to kick you out and your state doesn't recognize you as an adult then he can be brought up on charges.
It is diffiuclt to be a teen these days but try to stay if you can.
2006-10-20 03:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off what caused the rift with your father and you? Have you had an attitude and all? Sit down and talk with your father and get things straightened out, each of you getting your say with out getting angry. It's not really sucking it up - it's being a grown-up and talking your issues out. everything will be okay- your family will always be there for you and forgive you- that is what family is for ! Good luck and have an open mind when you talk with your father.
2006-10-20 03:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I where you I would leave for a little while until things calmed down. Before leaving I would explain to my little brother why I am leaving and that I will be back and tell him that it is nothing that he has done. He may be only 7 but one day he will understand why you had to leave.
2006-10-20 03:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are at a tough age. Hang in there and give your dad a little space until you can both look at the problem with out hollering at each other. Try and see both sides of the problem and work on a compromise.
2006-10-20 03:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by Hebrews 11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the exact situation and left. You will never forgive yourself. Your life will be confusing as hell on your own. I'm not saying that it will eventually be ok. I'm saying that you will suffer much along the way.
2006-10-20 03:39:05 · answer #5 · answered by TMAC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how much money do have?
do you have a job?
Where would you live?
Do you have a car?
Dont leave if you do not have these things your father only wants what best for you
2006-10-20 03:40:59 · answer #6 · answered by Luckys Charm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's the problem is actually?? and who's in the faulty side?? but anyway, either ur fault or ur father faullt, still there will be a coping satisfied solution... *hopefully*
2006-10-20 03:32:45 · answer #7 · answered by precious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u think they'll really do that? maybe he is just saying that to scare you... and when u get kicked out, they can't stop u from seeing your brother! call the police, and tell'em
2006-10-20 03:30:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋