I Know this might be crazy, But i really think my boyfriend has an big problem cause he wants some everytime he can get it. < if you know what i mean. > Even this morning i told him that i just wanted to lay down an go to sleep, but he wanted some so bad that he pushed me off the bed an we fell on the floor an he damn near almost hurt me. Now my question is im startin to fear that if i tell him i don't want it as often as he does, will he want to leave me? An how do i go about tell him to slow his roll?
2006-10-20 03:21:27 · 12 answers · asked by bx123rd 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you are describing comes really close to the definition of rape, sweetheart. Anytime fear comes in to this kind of a relationship, even though you don't say you're scared he'll hurt you (and he may not), you're still doing something you don't want to do because you're scared.
Be careful how you approach him, and definitely don't do it in bed, or when he's wanting to have sex. Wait for a time when you're both in decent moods, and bring up the topic. He might want it, but he needs to learn some serious self-control.
Please please don't have sex with someone out of fear. It will undermine you and is not what sex is supposed to be. I am unfortunately experienced in this, and am lucky enough to be with someone who would never push me to do something I don't want to do. For that reason, we've done a lot more than I've done with anyone else. It's soo much better and more fun when you COMPLETELY trust your partner.
Good luck, and please do be careful. I wonder if you're not understating things in your question. If you are, please get help. You are special and important - don't let anyone make you feel otherwise.
2006-10-20 03:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by Katie Short, Atheati Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he respects you and your feelings, he will listen. If he doesn't and it's getting to the point where he may hurt you either accidentally or physically, talk to him.
If this is all he wants from you, is the relationship going to last: probably not.
And really, do you want it to?
Talk to him first, make your side of the situation known. If he doesn't respect it, kick him out- you'd be better off without him in the that case.
Being single isn't bad either!
2006-10-20 10:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by kiwi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he cannot respect your wishes, that he is not the one for you. You shouldn't have to feel pressured to sleep with someone. I know you might love him, but you need to stop and think about how he makes you feel. You need to weigh out the good and the bad and see which one comes out on top. I'm not saying to break up wiht him, I am just trying to say, do what ever makes you happy.
2006-10-20 10:28:41 · answer #3 · answered by julie_loves_music 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a problem & I think you should leave him. He obviously doesn't love you if pu**y is all that matters to him..so much that he would push you..and hurt you. I don't think that's fair to you at all. Don't let him get control stand up for yourself and push him back and tell him that if he ever fu**ing touches you again you will leave his ***. And if he tells you to leave then..then just do it..he doesn't care about you.
2006-10-20 10:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by Destiny Jay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got one question.
Why the hell are you still with his ***! if he is treating you like that he don't deserve you woman! and if he leaves you because your tired or not in the mood **** him who needs him girl you don't need a guy to live and wanna know how to tell him to slow his roll just like this Back the hell off for a few you got a hand go jerk yourself off! just like that! Geez come on girl you don't need no one to treat you like that if someone treated me like that there *** would be out the door in two seconds flat!
2006-10-20 10:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by blood_shadow_walks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's pushing you off the bed now, what's it gonna be like in six months? Are you sure he wouldn't physically attack you or force you in any other way? If you can't reason with him on something as important as this, why do you want to be with him?
2006-10-20 10:25:41 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you compromise yourself? Your drive (sexual) may not be as strong as his so it is your responsibility to tell him. Anything else is unacceptable. Do you really think this is going to change? Take responsibility for your body, it is yours, and no one has the right to impose their sexual desires upon it or you. Oh, by the way, if a guilt trip comes with saying NO perhaps its time for you to reevaluate your situation.
2006-10-20 10:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by sylviavnpttn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a relationship to work,u must be free with each other and able to communicate to each other.
So just sit down and talk about it.Tell him yo serious,coz sometimes men don't take us to be serious.Explain to him how u feel about his dangerous urge.He will understand.
2006-10-20 10:39:53 · answer #8 · answered by qn beda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want to be with him when he pushes you off your bed just because he wants sex?
he sounds to me like he'd throw tantrums to get his own way- how old is he?
just tell him start that he has a high sex drive that you just dont want it as much, he'll have to live with with it otherwise hes not worth having!
2006-10-20 10:27:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe thats not the best relationship for you because he sounds like a sex addict to me and it could get to the point where he's willing to force you to get it.
2006-10-20 10:30:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋