2006-10-20 03:04:07 · 6 answers · asked by Evar-ceako Onyeanusi 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Jealousy is a manifestation of fear. The fear we have of losing the security of a relationship often undermines the relationship itself. It is not so much a matter of trust, but the willingness to accept that your partner cannot be restrained by invoking fear and jealousy unless you are willing to introduce the factor of "rule by threat or fear." This is what undermines trust and foments instability. Jealousy works against a relationship and is partially an artifact of a person's unwillingness to take stronger measures in response to a transgression or to accept that transgressions will occur, forgive them if they are forgiveable, and move on. People want to hold on to security and sameness, and many people will put up with much in order to maintain the status quo; others will use passive-aggressive methods and live in a fearful, jealous state, rather than face the possibility of being thrown out into the cold.
The only way to do away with jealousy is to accept whatever comes and only punish actual transgressions, rather than suspected ones. And when punishment is necessary, do it without hatred; just accept that a split might be inevitable, but that the possibility of redemption also exists. Trust should not be given blindly but, if it is given, it must be tempered with understanding and minimizing the fear associated with the possibility of loss and betrayal. If you fear betrayal, you do not trust. So making the betrayal something that can be repented might be the best thing to save trust. I hope that made sense!
2006-10-20 03:34:44 · answer #1 · answered by Black Dog 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Isn't some jealousy in a relationship a good thing?
Doesn't it make the 2nd person feel wanted?
Isn' it OK when jealousy in moderation adds glue to a marriage?
2006-10-20 12:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by far from perfect but forgiven 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is a competition from start to finish.
To do away with jealousy and trust everyone is to invite exploitation and deceit. Each situation needs to be judged carefully on its own merits.
2006-10-20 10:08:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,from your point of view,unless one first has a relationship with God in unconditional love. As sunlight passing through water crystals is divided into the colors of the rainbow. As divine unconditional love passing through the mental concepts is divided into duality,in/out,up/down,positive/negativeand etc.and through the human emotions it divides into conditional love/hate.
2006-10-20 10:45:13 · answer #4 · answered by Weldon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These frailties of human nature are inescapable.Trust is a rarety, as is true selfless love. It hjas to be sustained human effort to rise above the failings, and attain MOKSHA or NIRVANA (= salvation)Agreed ?
2006-10-20 10:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because humans are insecure beings. There's always going to be someone out there better looking, richer or just more desirable then you.
Just my take on it.
2006-10-20 10:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋