relationship problems-family?

Question

I need some advice here.
Can anyone teach me how to really forgive and forget? Everytime I try to, the feelings just seem repressed. I let myself be in denial and before i know it i get outbursts of anger. I hate my sister because she has been abusing me for all my life. Even when she's trying to change, I find it hard to not judge her. Thoughts of all the wrong things that she's done to me start flooding my mind.
I hate her because she's been really unreasonable to me in the past, doing a lot of things to hurt me, like going through my personal things, reading my diaries in front of me and even making fun of the things i write, throwing things at me and punching me, i really cant take it.everytime i retaliate, i only get abused more.
how do i forgive her? i feel that it was because of her that i have grown up without learning the skill of managing my emotions well. i feel that i have to restrain myself to please everyone. i feel that im unable to be assertive.pls help.

Answer 1

My way of forgiving is, that Jesus can forgive us, and all we have to do is ask him, and he does. then we should learn by that to forgive. If you do not forgive, the person that you hurt the most is yourself, so for your sake, you have to forgive, so you can free yourself, to love, of course growing up is hard as far as family is concern. but you have to move on. You need to work on yourself, now if you cannot do it on your own, then you need some help, their are a lot of good books, and tapes out that can help you, but if you think it is too deep a problem, go to a therapist!

Answer 2

No, no one can teach you how to forgive and forget except yourself.

Answer 3

HOW OLD ARE YOU?????????????? WHERE ARE OR WERE YOU PARENTS WHEN SHE'S BEEN DOING ALL OF THIS??? IS YOUR SISTER OLDER?? WE NEED MORE DETAILS TO HELP YOU, I THINK!!