year and half ago.I somehow felt that she is not the girl and became very casual with her.We also had numerous arguments.In course of time we stopped talking to each other completely she thought if we stay apart I will love her. In a period of 4months i realised I love her a lot and she really loves me a lot too.
But in the mean while when she got angry with me thinking that i cheated her,she got engaged to a guy who liked her from a long time. Now she says that she loves me and wouldnt marry the guy she got engaged to,rather she end her life.I obviously wouldnt like her to do that.She wants to come back but looking at the past she gives it a second thought.
I want to spend my life with her and she too but at the same time she doesnt want to betray that guy.i dont want to lose her at any cost.
how do i make her believe that i would love to spend my life with her and how do i be confirmed that in so much of time she too couldnt forget me and loves me the same way?
2006-10-20 02:33:17 · 10 answers · asked by ithunderhyderabad 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sounds to me like she is having the problem with growing up..getting engaged to someone after knowing them four months is not the sign of a mature person...and why would she even consider staying with someone she doesn't love just to spare his feelings....
2006-10-20 02:36:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sherry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough one. you wont know if there is the assurance that she will love u back the same way. Giving does not equal to receiving back the same amount / value. I always say that one should measure both sides. Two options:
1) You keep her because you love her so much and are sure that you can live with her for the rest of your life. Whether or not she will love u back the same way in the future is a different story but at least you have tried and you have given your best. Your conscience is clear and you have done what you think is right.
2) You leave her because you are not convinced that she will treat you as good as you do to her. But in the future, will you be looking back and say "what if?","maybe","perhaps", "if only". You may be regretting things that you've never done / tried before. And you'll be haunted by the possibilities of what might become.
So it's your choice...10 years down the road, will you be looking back and say "whether something good or bad comes out of it, I have no regrets because I've given my best"?
There's no telling untill you try. Ultimately, are u willing to still love her with all that you have eventhough she may continue to hurt u?
All the best :)
2006-10-20 09:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you do have problem a big one. However, I have a question (hate to add to your problems). She met and got engaged to another man in the space of 4 months? That is not a lot of time for a relationship to blossom into an engagement.
Think very hard before you get back involved with her, sounds like she was the one doing the cheating.
2006-10-20 09:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At time of separation she engaged with a guy and u didnt make with any girl. These shows how sincere ur towards her. She should reveal this on her own. Jus go and encounter her with this point and also say that she is ur life. Never leave ur girl to anyone unnecessarily. Marry her soon.
2006-10-20 10:10:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tell her that U love her, when U truly love someone U cant even begin to explain how much U love them or how U feel. Pour Ur heart out to her on Ur feelings for her, if she doesn't believe U or doesn't want to be with U, U could wait for her, or U could say ok and move on, If she doesn't want to be with U, then if U truly love her U will let her go and let her be.
2006-10-20 09:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you love her and that you don't want to lose her ..express your feelings..but at the same time ask her to chose ..either you ..or the guy..Unless you want to be n#2 in her life and share her with that man ..
Let her make the decision wisely ..
Express your feelings frankly..then be distant to ..avoid any pressure on her ..
and then you'll realize if she loves u back or not ..!!
2006-10-20 09:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by ^^ANGEL^^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her you love her and want to be with her forever, you're sorry for the way you acted before but you didn't realize how much you loved her and I never cheated on you i wouldn't be able to. she can tell the guy,"I'm sorry {name}, but i love someone else. i was just on the rebound with you and i thought my guy cheated on me."
(if you did cheat on her, i'd advise against using my advice, because i don't like people who cheat on others.)
2006-10-20 09:37:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kalphbeir 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she has to make a choice and it might not be easy but it has to be done . someone is going to get hurt no matter what her choice will be . if she loves you then she has to be with you are she needs to let go and not keep you hanging .
2006-10-20 09:38:45 · answer #8 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has everything she needs a man and a spare ...... she will keep you around untill the otherone doesnt work then she will forgive you..... the question is will you allow her to do that
2006-10-20 09:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by teneesha2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a little growing up is needed here...just a little..
2006-10-20 09:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by sayasyoulike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋