If the person left right after the birth, would the dad be a stranger to the baby?
Is it better for both parents to be around for their first child and then leave when the baby is almost 1?
2006-10-20 02:31:37 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I was not asking what branch should this person join.
PLease read the question
2006-10-20 02:42:23 · update #1
join now. your baby will have the best health care. join the national guard and you wont be away from your baby. gone 18 weeks. and then you are back home. until it is your time to go. you are still in the service but you will be home more. if you wait your baby will miss you more if you leave when it has a chance to get use to you being there.i know from experience when my son went and left his 4 year old behind. its hard on the child once they are use to you being there everyday. good luck
2006-10-20 02:37:52 · answer #1 · answered by tmouser59 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The dad is the same to a baby whether or not the mom is around. The military has rules about when you can join regarding health issues. You will not be able to go to basic training or boot camp until you're not pregnant and physically able to do the training. If you're a single parent or if the other parent is joining at the same time you have to give guardianship of your child to someone else until all your training, including technical school, is completed.
Consider things like will you be breastfeeding? Can you afford to be a single parent while the other is in training? You won't get anything like housing or extra money during this time. Why do you want to join the military? Who do you have to help you with your child, and are you sure those people are willing and able to help? The military wants it's people to be able to balance family with career, but more often than not the military's needs come before the family's.
2006-10-20 10:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kind of depends on the situation. My daughter is five months old. My husband left for basic training for ten weeks, two weeks ago. Either way, this decision will have a drastic impact on the child's live. I told my husband that I was much more comfortable with him traing NOW when she's still little than when she's one or two years old and can ask me everyday "where's Daddy?" It'd break my heart and I'm not ready to deal with that. It's better for him to be around during the first few months because Mom is tired and she needs help. this would also allow for a little bonding with the baby. Waiting until the baby is a year old could be a good situation too. The baby will remember you and talk to you when you call and be able to draw pictures to send. The child will be more involved. Keep in mind that either way you need to keep both parents involved and enlist the help of family members either way.
2006-10-20 10:24:09 · answer #3 · answered by Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I left for Basic Training when my son was 3 weeks old and when I got done with all my training and saw him for the first time in 6 months he still looked at me with the same smile he had when he was born. He was hospitalized a couple of times but the military paid for the bill which would have ran me over $10,000. Also the military has awesome child care which is reasonably cheap. All in All it's a good thing but it a personal choice you have to make with your wife becuase my wife said it was stressfull at times but she got a lot of support from family and friends. Good Luck
2006-10-20 10:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by ddudley543 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a year so that the baby knows who you are and also for health reasons.It would be better for both parents to be around
for their 1st child and leave when the child is almost 2 years of age.
2006-10-20 09:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Vagabond5879 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
join when you are ready. the medical insurance is top notch. you will catch grief if you arent married to the mother. good luck. you will be stationed in the states for atleast a year for schooling and training. join. talk to a recruiter about your concerns
2006-10-20 10:11:32 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have medical insurance in your current job, I'd say wait ...... who knows you may not even go overseas, not every one does....but if you don't have medical insurance, join now so that the baby can be born in a military hosp, and not cost you a cent. Plus your wife and kid with have full medical coverage, and houseing ect if you do get sent overseas.
2006-10-20 09:35:04 · answer #7 · answered by Judith O 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't be an idiot. Stay away from the military unless you want your child to grow up an orphan. We are in a war there is no getting out of. Now we have Korea to deal with.
2006-10-20 09:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do it now; Youll have a better chance of getting the MOS you want before someone else fills it plus the healthcare
2006-10-20 09:38:43 · answer #9 · answered by I Hate Liberals 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Kidd's grow up with their own circumstances being normal. Join the military when ever,
2006-10-20 09:34:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋