i been living with my granma since i was 7 years old she is my mama but i want to connet with tha real one
2006-10-20 02:31:10 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you gota find her and talk to her why is she doing that to yah... maybe she has a reasons
2006-10-20 02:39:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to connect with your real mother after all this time i guess you are going to have to call her and tell her you would like to meet to go out for lunch some day and just sit and talk.. better make it a quiet place so you don't have a whole lot of interuptions. because it could be a touchy meeting the first time.
And remember she had problems of some kind or she would have been there for you.. Maybe she thought that you were better off with your grandmother raising you all these years.
Your visit will you will let you find out what all was going on back then . she will explain it to you when she is ready.. So all you can do is keep the communication with her open.. and be willing to listen..let her do the talking.. if you have to get things going tell her about how your life has been going. and just get her to talking first. things will work out and you may become real friends. she may not have been a mother but she can be a friend for the rest of your life.. but do something before it is to late.. you don't want to regret this for the rest of your life too.. Remember always that you did nothing wrong.. she just couldn't take care of you for some reason.
talk to her...
2006-10-20 09:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is understandable, but never forget what sacrifices that your granny did for you. The reason you may want to connect is because you really want answers, you want to see the type of person your mom is, and if you can connect to her. It is nothing wrong with that, has she been in your life at all? did she ever come over to visit? then may be you should give her a call, and ask her to lunch or dinner, tell her you would like to get to know her. Tell Granny, not to worry, that she will always be a part of your life!
2006-10-20 09:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be a hard thing for u to do, but go talk to her and tell her how u feel. Tell her your needs, life is to short to go on feeling like u are. I was 16 and a partier, hardly ever home, one day mom said come home with me will have a beer together, but I had to stay home if I was gonna drink, I said OK. Now I'm almost 40 and my mom is my best friend. I hardly ever went out after that, I stayed home with her and talked and that was the best part of my whole life. Tell Her how you feel. It's OK to love. Besides what could it hurt to try?summerdays
2006-10-20 09:41:15 · answer #4 · answered by sunnydays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEE GEE'S answer is a good one. I'd like to add that maybe you're feeling it so strongly about it now because now you're a young adult about to go out into the big ol' world and realize that maybe you needed and missed the nurturing and advice that a mother "normally" gives to her child in order to live in the big ol' world. Like BEE GEE said, take it slow and easy but do sit down with her and have a heart to heart talk. Good luck to you.
2006-10-20 09:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by valducci53 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FInd out a couple of things ur mother likes to do and plan events around that for juz the two of you together.
2006-10-20 10:09:06 · answer #6 · answered by dagirl10149 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HI FIRST START OFF SLOW. TELL YOUR MOM HOW YOU FEEL LET HER KNOW WHAT IS ON YOUR MIND AND WHAT YOU EXPECT FROM HER AND ASK HER IF SHE CAN SUPPLY YOU WITH WHAT YOUR ASKING. START OFF WITH MAYBE DINNER OR A MOVIE OR EVEN SHOPPING. FIND OUT HER LIKE AND DISLIKES AND DO SOMETHING YOU BOTH ENJOY IT WILL COME NATURALLY AFTER THAT. BUT REMEMBER TO JUST TAKE IT SLOW THERE IS A REASON FOR EVERYTHING.
2006-10-20 09:40:19 · answer #7 · answered by GEE GEE 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋