i hv a boyfrend from last 2yrs. 1yr ago we started kissing and hugging. on his b'day he also fondled and sucked my breasts. i dont want to hv sex b4 marriage but i loved whatever happened. we hvnt done it again as i m afraid it may lead to more. so is it possible to hv this kisses and all and stop at the right time?? i m 21yrs old and working.
2006-10-20 01:55:31 · 21 answers · asked by studious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he nvr force me for anything and even he dont want to hv sex b4 marriage.
2006-10-20 02:49:31 · update #1
Hi Friend...
Well you have a geniune problem but not the tougest for to be worried..
See it is clear from the above picture that both of your love each other very much and probably cant stay away from each other..
Now that you both are aware of each other so then next step of love is changed into sex..well Kissing is not a sin unless you both really love each other..but then the other thing that u told might affect both of you...that two in two ways as under
A] Let me clear youone thing that women has 7 times more sex power than men..so once the inner desires of a women are been touched by the men then its really tough for the women to live without sex..which ultimately might affect your work and personal life..becos once you get addicted to your boyfriends touch then u might wont be able to concerntrate on your work and career which is a serious problem..
B] And as u no its not right to have sex before marriage ..and if u try to avoid sex from your BF,then this may lead to certain misunderstanding between you and himultimately ending inot a sorrow note.
The best think here you can do is to take your boyfriend with you and sit in a calm place and make him understand that lets make our careers first and then life next...I hope both of you would agree to each other as u both love each other to the extremes..
And always remeber one thing NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE IN THIS WORLD UNLESS YOU TRY TO SOLVE IT..
TK CR BYE BYE
2006-10-21 21:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by lalit_jain123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stop before the actual act, but this will take a lot of will and strength. You are young and in the throes of sexual discovery and it would be very difficult for both of you to stop once the "ball" gets rolling. Just imagine a car that is running so fast , it is difficult for anyone to hit the brakes. Play safe, don't be alone too often if you want to preserve your virginity for marriage, because the penetration is the natural conclusion of necking and petting, more so that you love each other.
2006-10-20 03:17:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW a 21 year old virgin!!! Your boy has a lot of will power. He must love you a lot to go that far then stop. If he's the man you plan to marry carry on he knows what he's in for (One great Honeymoon). However, if you are not going to marry him let him know so he can move on because that is just TEASING the hell out of him. He's been with you for two years how long is he gonna have to wait? You are a Virgin right?
*P.S: I don't mean to offend you it's just that I have never seen a virgin over 18 years old.
2006-10-20 02:09:32 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U sound like a sensible girl and understand ur morals...
If u enjoyed this experience then u deserve to but don't feel guilty...
I think talking to ur boyfriend abt this is sensible because he can understand ur feelings...it sounds like he is afraid too....there are precautions u can take to prevent any accidents.
However, u do not need to have sex to prove u love each other...i think u can enjoy each others touch and kisses without it leading to sex but through experience....somewhere and someday it can happen......
so plz share ur feelings and concerns with him.
Good luck!
2006-10-20 11:58:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is so many thing you can do without having sex ..... and you just need try them and yes you can stop again just like you did last time .... i thinks its great that you are waiting for marriage .... best of luck and enjoy E L
2006-10-20 02:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is dangerous. Once in a while it happens that you get carried away at a wrong moment and then you can only repent and are forced to accept the status co.
2006-10-20 04:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by Meeto 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, surely you can stop confusing, if things are going like this you will do it all, in near future. Because, you loved all that happened, and you boyfriend never compelled to do any thing, then how it started.
So,your question itself contain the answer also.
2006-10-20 22:54:47 · answer #7 · answered by Believe me.... not ! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Till you avoid sex, nothing happens.
Immediately get married and start doing everything.
Love is sex, sex is love.
Men never face social problems - but women are vulnerable.
2006-10-20 20:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any sex related activities, reduces the attraction of the body, before marriage.
The good smell of cooked meals, always attracts .......?
But after eating, belly-full, We don't eat further, OK
So don't allow him to taste your natural beauty, It will diminish.
2006-10-20 02:17:39 · answer #9 · answered by kingofuniverse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to do what you don't want, if he force you that's rape, and you can report him to proper authority, just let him know that! in the meantime what ever it is you two enjoys together then continue doing it and have a good time!
2006-10-20 02:00:20 · answer #10 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋