change it and go back to before? I don't know if these are normal feelings as i didn't have them with my 1st but i seem to have gone off my partner and can't tolerate people who i could sit with for hours before, its really confusing and i want to enjoy the pregnancy but can't at the moment, i am only nine weeks so i am hoping it will get better but what if it doesn't, has anyone else felt like this before?
2006-10-20 01:50:49 · 21 answers · asked by Sarah A 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Being pregnant is hard.
I tried to get pregnant with my partner for two years before it happened. We had even had loads of fertlity investigations to find out why we couldn't conceive (as I also didn't get pregnant whilst with my ex) we were expecting to go on the NHS waiting list for IVF
Then it happened naturally.
I have found it very hard, the sickness has been bad for me and as someone who has a phobia of vomiting its been a nighmare. I had 24/7 non stop sickness for the first 14 weeks. I also had to stop work much sooner than most people do because I was feeling rough and that has had a very bad impact on our finances.
Before I got pregnant I worked 40 hours a week, took 8 hours dance classes a week plus performances and music lessons etc. Now I'm lucky to get a music lesson once a fortnight (because of money), have had to stop dance and am stuck at home most of the time waiting for the baby to arrive (I'm 33 weeks pregnant).
I have found it very hard and have cried a few times because I felt so ill and stressed. I have been desperately miserable and angry with myself for not being able to enjoy what I have waited so long to experience!
But heres the thing, I know when the baby is here it is going to be worth it. It has brought me and my partner closer (we were having problems in our relationship before, now we're closer than ever) and has brought our family closer together as well. Everyone is so happy and excited about the baby.
Theres not long for me to go now and I know that once baby is here everyting will be so much better. Plus I can go back to work and our finances will improve and I can take up dance again. This is just a temporary blip.
I would really advise you to talk to your midwife as she will have seen this all before. Talking about to someone understanding will really help.
Things will get easier as the pregnancy progresses and you can see "light at the end of the tunnel" so to speak.
Good luck and big hugs! I know just what you're going through.
2006-10-21 08:33:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of soon to be 3. So I know how you feel. I always went thru the don't touch me leave me alone stages in the beginning and very end. But the rest of the time it was wonderful. Each pregnancy is different even to the same person. Wait until you feel that baby move you'll get so excited and I know with me after i started showing just a bit I would walk around all day long rubbing my belly. People annoy me even when I'm not pregnant. But I honestly think it's just hormones, your body is going thru a lot. As for your partner just explain to him that you don't mean to but it's just part of being pregnant and once your body get's use to being pregnant it will probably pass. If not talk to a doctor about it. She might have some relaxation techniques or better yet go get a massage. SOme places have pregnancy tables you'll walk out feeling on top of the world
2006-10-20 09:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by aivey318 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are over 400 chemical changes in your body when you conceive. I'm sure some affect your emotions. Remember that each pregnancy is different and unique just like the child. I was much sicker when I carried my daughter than either of the boys. Would you have been as worried if this was your first child and you had nothing to compare it to? How old is your first child? You may just be exhausted from chasing a toddler around while pregnant. Talk to your doctor, if he won't listen or discounts the importance of what you are saying, call your local mental health facility to find someone to talk to. As always, make sure you are drinking plenty of water, eating and sleeping well, taking vitamins, so that you are doing the best you can with the parts you can control. With the rest, communicate with those who love you and with the professionals. Good luck.
2006-10-20 09:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Californiamama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I totally had that. We planned the prgnancy and I wanted it and everything, but then when it happend I was feeling like "take it back!!!". I thought I had a miscarriage at like 12 weeks, so that made me appreciate it a little more, but not much. Over the 9 months I got less and less unhappy about it, and more and more OK with it. Even in the delivery room I was trying to convince myself that I would love the baby when I saw it - because I wasn't sure at all. Let me tell you, after all that worry, all that thinking I wouldn't love the baby, OMG I loved him the first second I saw him!! TRuly - I was as bad feeling about the pregnancy as I could possibly be, but in that second, I was changed forever and now I am absolutely and wholelly 100% in love. Just go with the flow and don't judge yourself against others.
PS - My friends who were all happy being pregnant, rubbing their bellies, talking to their bellies, are now MISERABLE moms. So maybe you will be the opposite like me - unhappy pregnant - overjoyed when the baby comes!! Everyone is different so don't compare yourself.
2006-10-20 09:31:36 · answer #4 · answered by In Luv w/ 2 B, 1 G + 1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was desperate for my first child (we had been trying for a year) and when i found out my head was all over the place, since having my 2 other children i have found out that this is perfectly normal, i think it just reality kicking in. i also worried how i was going to cope having my 1st baby then how would cope with 2 then 3 kids but as you get bigger and nearer your due date that all changes and you cant wait to see this little miracle you have created, so don't worry its natural and your not the only person to feel that way. good luck with the rest of the pregnancy i hope it all goes well x
2006-10-21 08:20:58 · answer #5 · answered by claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes very normal. Im pregnant with my 4th baby right now. I tried for 5 months, and was so excited and then I was wishing I hadnt done it. Dont get me wrong, Im still excited and Cant wait to see my baby, but I cant explain it, its confusing feelings. Its probably because I have been severly sick thoug with this baby. Since 6 weeks, i have been sick 24/7 and still am and Im 17 weeks now. I have been the most miserable I have every been in my life. So Im guessing this is why I have these thoughts. Dont worry, It will pass and you will be happy the baby is coming. Im feeling the baby move around now and its starting to change my feelings and excite me more.
2006-10-20 09:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by Blondi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. Your hormones are going to be jumping around all over the place for the next few weeks. They'll settle for a while and then go wacko all over again towards the end of pregnancy. One day I could stand my husband and the next I wanted a divorce. It does get better. Just try and get as much rest as you can. Congratz on the baby!!! I wish you a happier and healthy pregnancy!
2006-10-20 08:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by Kel K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know we use these hormone excuses for everything, but it is true, and that is why you are having conflicting messages going through your head, in time they will settle, It will get back to the way it was, I have had 3 children, and I felt exactly the same, my idea is it will be a girl, I found when I was pregnant with my son I was relaxed and easy going, but with the 2 girls it was a different me, The hormones.
2006-10-20 09:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by the mumma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted my 3rd baby (who was a surprise)... But was very scared and didn't want her either. It was unplanned and obviously messed with my plans. I then hoped for a boy which didn't turn out my way either. The u/s technician told me girl and I cried for a week. After that I decided I was pregnant weather I want to be or not. I was having a girl weather I liked it or not. SO best thing to do was be happy and make the best of my soon to be new world.
2006-10-20 08:56:12 · answer #9 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just your hormones going all over the place, see if it settles in a couple of weeks.
Some people just cant get on with being pregnant but dont worry cos when the baby is born it will all work out ok.
2006-10-20 08:56:02 · answer #10 · answered by scragette2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋