2006-10-20 01:26:44 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Been married to the Army for 18 years so far. It's a rough life, but it's a good life. It takes alot of love, honesty and trust to make it work. I love the life. There's nothing that I would change about our life. We've had some really hard times, but we made it through it all. We keep communication open and we have total respect for each other. He's the love of my life and I can't imagine life without him. I know what the risks of his job are, but I support his career no matter what. It's an honor to be his wife. We've spent so much time apart, there's no way to keep track of it all. Each time he's away, we just grow stronger. With 2 years left to retire, we dread spending any more time apart although we know it could happen. We just enjoy each day that we have and cherish it. Our daughter is very strong and loves him very much. She knows what her Daddy does and she's proud of him. She adjusts because I adjust. I don't fight the Army, I go along with whatever is thrown at me.
You can do it....good luck!!
2006-10-23 11:07:15 · answer #1 · answered by HEartstrinGs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was career military....Military marriages are tough, but possible. You have to have a strong marriage and lot's of trust. If there are children involved, you also have to make sure you've got a backup plan in case you both get deployed at the same time..which can be tough on the children. It's not easy, but it's workable!
2006-10-20 08:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i married my hubby when he was 5 years into the navy and i was just beginning my first...he is now 10 years into his military service...we have been married 5.5 years and have a 4 year old
we have lived in the south, east coast, west coast and midwest...we move alot
being in a military marriage is hard...you both have to work at it even if he is deployed most of the year...i will admit there were times that i wanted to just walk away, but the next day seems to get easier...
i think that with time, you learn to adjust to the moving, getting a new job, finding schools for your kids and so on...
at first i thought moving was cool because we got to experience new places....now i am 27 and just flat out tired of it...we hope that our next move will be our last...
we know lots of military families and i would guess that 70% of them are divorced by now...it has to do with being deployed, money issues, cheating and so on
2006-10-20 09:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by sherichance79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is REALLY a tough thing to do. My marriage couldnt handle the stress of deployments and rumors.. We thankfully are back together now after him being out for almost 2 years.. But honestly, it is the hardest thing in the world. As long as you guys love each other and stay faithful and TRUST each other, you can make it.. Also, get involved with the army wife stuff... I didn't and I think that's where I went wrong. FRG is really helpful and you'll need the support if he gets deployed. Good luck!
2006-10-20 08:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by getting large with baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I served 22 years in the navy. I was married for about 15 years during this time. I've been retired almost 10 years and we're still married.
There were some incredibly stressful times, especially when I was deployed for 6 months to a year at a time.
2006-10-20 14:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by Yak Rider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my hubby did 15 active and is currently in the reserves there r times it's really tough and challanging like when he was in school we were getting ready to move out of state I had an accident fractured my arm in 3 places had to pack up the house by myself. things happen u just deal with it. The seperations are the hardest mine is getting ready to go to saudia arabia in Jan for 4 months. but I love him have so much respect for him. we make it work. If it was easy wouldn't be worth it smile
2006-10-20 09:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by sshhorty2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been married for 12 years to my husband who is active army. we have never had any major issue thru our marriage, mainly about getting time to ourselves. he works late alot and i am at home with kids. i understand more because i was active duty and my father is retired army. we've been thru 4 deployments. we just take it day by day. marriage is hard for everyone, not just military.
2006-10-20 09:09:23 · answer #7 · answered by haikuhi2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good but difficult. I found it helped to have friends that were in the same situation as us for support. Moving every two years was really hard - but we always lived on the base so we knew what to expect.
2006-10-22 15:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by emmyfair 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had four of them, they were all good. Divorces really sucked, but the marriages were all good.
2006-10-20 08:32:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
very short. i went over seas, and was faithful. she was not, we agreed to work on it, she joined, we went overseas at different bases, and found out the day i got my purple heart that she was the camp whore where i was flown into for medical treatment. yeah, they don't last.
2006-10-20 08:35:50 · answer #10 · answered by Jon C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋