Did you get pregnant at age 17? If so answer this for me...?

Question

Do you regret having a baby so young? Did you do good in your opinion with your child and your life? Did you finish school?

Why i am asking is my sister just found out she is 6 weeks pregnant and she is only 17. I am her older sister (I am 27 yrs old). I was also a young mom in my opinion (At age 21) but being 17 years old did you all do good?

I am their for my sister if she needs me. Our mom dosen't know yet. I told my sister that she has options but she has decided that she wants it and has a OB/GYN appointment this morning. She is still in school as of now (11th grade)..
The guy (her boyfriend is 19) is also wanting the baby. She is afraid to tell our mom. I mean i do have 5 sisters in all and all of us have kids, the oldest sister had her baby at age 16 and our mom is always there for us but she is scared that when she tells mom that she will tell her boyfriend not to come back around or maybe get him into trouble which i doubt about that.

What do you think?

To hush girl...Our mom did tell us about birth control. All of us were on birth control at some point. My sister that i am talking about was on b/c pills but she still got pregnant (do you really think she meant to?). I was on birth control and my pregnancy was planned. My oldest sister is the only one that got pregnant at age 16 but she is still with her man and is happy.

My mom did have 7 kids yes but you know she has been with our dad for 30 plus years and she has done a wonderful job with each and everyone one of us. So i think you are sad for judging

Answer 1

I was 17 when I found was pregnant , I was also afraid to tell my mother just cause I didn't want to have to hear the lecture . I finally did tell and we went thru some things but you have put your faith in god and let him work this out with you. He never gives you more than you can handle , although it may seem that way he has a plan . Think of this as blessing . There could possible be time later in your life and you plan to have children and he doesn't bless you that way then you might regret waiting . Over all it is very tough to raise a baby when you are still a baby and so many things you want to do ,places you want to travel , but that baby is your responsibility . No offense meant with the religion just ask God to make a way for your sister and this new life the family is going to be blessed with and it will all work out .

Answer 2

I can answer this from a more of an outsider point of view. My hubby is the product of Prom night. His parents where both 17 when they had him. I know that it was hard on his folks at first (at least this is what they've told me) His Dad joined the Army so they could have medical insurance, and a housing allowance. I know after my husband was born, his Dad came back from AIT and got his Mom pregnant again. So they had 2 kids at 19. As far as how they did in life. Well the sad part was they did file for divorce after 2 years of marriage. The mom did go to school, and was able to get a degree due to the fact she was a working mother, and there are grants everywhere to help out people who are really in need and trying to better themselves. He's Dad is now a truck driver, and is doing well he currently has 6 kids. I know they struggled, and its been very hard because they feel very young still, even know that my hubby and I are getting ready to have our first baby at 23 years old, they just now got into their 40s. They will be fine, just talk to your folks. They'll know how to help you.

Answer 3

I was 17 when I got pregnant, but it was planned, and I had my own home and My husband and I had two every good jobs, I had to drop out which I didn't want to do, but I was on a high mental level than people at school, I was going to college part time. My school was 35 mins away from where I lived, so I had to leave. My husband has a half ownership to an automotive business so we were set in life. If she got goverment funding and moved out with her boyfriend on their own, I would say find, but if she is still living at home with Mom, it doesn't look and feel right. My sister got pregnant at 17 and she just came back to live with my parents. So I would say, it's depending of her personality. Girls who haven't gotten much attention from DAD (her father) tend to have babies earlier, because they think a baby can fill the void that they have. Please encourage her to get her G.E.D. or HSD, because I don't have the time to grow get it, and I would do anything to have it. After all I'm still 20, but that would make me feel a thousand times better in life. Help her, but don't help her enough that she thinks she can hand over the baby to you all the time. I better much raised my niece when I was 16 and my sister was 18, that's how I knew I was going to be a great mother! So, she wants that baby to fill a void in life, and tell your sister boyfriend that he needs to be the best father he can , because I don't think they want their little girl having a baby at 17.

Answer 4

I got married when I was 16 and got preg. had my baby at 17. Although I did not finish high school I dropped out in 11th. I DO regret it sometimes although I would NEVER take anything for my little girl she is now 12! I think for a young mother I done REAL well. You see SO many parents raising there grand babies although when I did have my little girl I KNEW it was MY responsibilities and I think I done REALLY well with her! Now I have a 8 year old little boy and another on the way! I was afraid to tell my mother at first as well because she always told me NOT TO although AFTER I told her she just told me I was a big girl now and we raise our OWN children! BEST WISHES

Answer 5

Tell her that you will go with her to talk to mom. I didn't have a teen pregnancy, but I have had friends in this situation. I know a girl that's 19 now and had her daughter at 17 and never regretted it. I'm sure with your family they can help her with the baby so that she can finish school. Tell her to be up front with mom and tell her she wants the boyfriend in the picture please be nice to him. He is the child's father after all and even as infants they feel the friction in the air. Sounds like Mom is pretty open minded I don't think Little sis has much to fear.

Answer 6

i was 17 when i got pregnant and i dont regret it for a min i finished school after i had my son i think if she is able to care for her child then just be there for her and make sure she knows she wont be in trouble. having a child is a blessing. i myself had help from my folks as well my son is now 7 yrs old and hes very happy and healthy hes got a little brother and new baby sister hes been helping me with the newborn since she was born tell her i said congrats and have a happy and healthy 9 months

Answer 7

I'm now 31 with 3 children,my 1st was born when i was 15 the others i left a 4yr space between them.Looking at my life and what i have done i would never change it,but if my daughters got pregnant i would stand by them whatever there decision but i would hope they would do the right thing,i want my girls to have a good education to have a good carear and travel so i have explained to my oldest who is 16 the sacrifices that i had to make deciding to have her,they were staying in on a wkend when my mates were out,working doubly hard to support her and give her what she needed and society today is not kind if you dont have the best named shoes annd clothes your a poor kid and benefits dont buy them.When i decided to leave home after school,my mum hated it she begged me to stay at home but i knew best i ended up in a hostel and then a council flat on the roughest estate in my area.It made me work harder and achieve more i now have a great partner and a lovely home in a good area.IT DOESNT ALWAYS WORK OUT

Answer 8

I got pregant at the age of 17 and while at times I wish I would have waited I don't regret it. My parents were upset and disappointed but they were still there to support me and I'm sure your mom will do the same for your sister as will you. like her I was in 11th when I got pregnant and with the support of him, my parents, his parents and my school I still graduated. I won't say it's easy because it's not but she can do it. If her mom was there for the other that was pregnant at 16 then she will be there for her too.

Answer 9

It's tuff being 17 and pregnant. But if she has family and a bf willing to support her she can have the baby and finish school. She just has to work really hard and know that it will be tuff. She is going to be tired and frustrated but she can do it. The hardest part is school, but a lot of states offer day care, free or at a low cost for teen moms, to finish school, or they offer schools that have a day care right in the school. She has a lot of options out there to help her. Just make sure she knows it will be tuff but she can do it if she puts her mind to it.

Answer 10

well i had twins at the age 17 and it was hard but i finished school and got a full time job job school and kids i did it anyone can do it i am married now and my life is great but i still have a rough time but if she is 17 and he is 19 he can not get in to trouble becuase it has to be a four year difference well just be there for her good luck