Three months ago....my internet boyfriend of over a year, moved in with me. We get along great. Neither of us pressure the other. We spend a lot of time together, and have great conversations. He says that he finds me very attractive. But, he rarely shows sexual interest in me. I don't get it.
He is 51, and I am 40......not quite ready for my rockin' chair.
I have voiced my concerns, but he just fluffs it off....saying it must just be a phase he's going through. And, he doesn't seem to concerned with finding out why he's having this little problem.
The rare times we are intimate, it's great. I just don't get it. Any advice?
2006-10-20 01:06:40 · 13 answers · asked by treefrog 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like while you are at your peak he is on the downslide. You need to assess what means more to you at this stage in your life, emotional intimacy or physical intimacy. It sounds like you are getting the best of both worlds but not is the percentage you are happy with. Men naturally lose sex drive as they age (some do not) but if you are both truly happy with eachother than you will both want to work on this. There are natural and traditional medical therapies to increase sex drive and performance. Please speak openly and honestly with him as we all know that harbouring painful issues in a relationship will lead to its demise. If sex is that important to you at this stage in your life, perhaps you need a younger more virile partner.
2006-10-20 01:17:43 · answer #1 · answered by sunfiregeetee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People age differently. Some of us peak out sexually before we are 40 years old. I would think that six times per week would be enough for any person 30-70 years old.
2006-10-20 08:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by tadpoleslider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just has a very low sex drive. There may be some other kind of underlying problem you should nag and nag till he goes to the doctor for a check up.
2006-10-20 08:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesnt mean he doesnt love you he may just want to take it slow with you thinking you want to go slow so just tell him you wanna take things faster. If he respects you that much to take it slower than just have sex 24/7 i guess thats cool not many guys that are like that tho lol
2006-10-20 08:12:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe in his past he has had very sexual relationships that went wrong, he may just be nervous. He may have a medical issue at 51.
2006-10-20 08:10:44 · answer #5 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not because he is old..because my fiance went through the same thing and he is only 24 but it eventually passed and we went on having sex everynight...Maybe he is concerned that he isnt pleasing you enough so he is trying to avoid it.
2006-10-20 08:16:55 · answer #6 · answered by Cassey L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask you doctor. That should reeeeeally help him.
2006-10-20 08:14:14 · answer #7 · answered by Michi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it's not you who needs an advice, it's him :)
2006-10-20 08:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by rhnegatif 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes OLD. thats the problem! its called VIAGRA!
2006-10-20 08:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by *HEiDi!* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get him on viagra, pronto!
a guy who doesnt love sex is crazy!
giddy up :)
2006-10-20 08:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋