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there's this friend who's bf is cheating on her which i know but afraid to tell cos she realy loves this guy.and i know when i tell her it will realy hurt her.what shuld i do?plz help me someone out there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-10-20 00:55:27 · 20 answers · asked by jemima a 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Better to get hurt now than later. The longer things continue the harder it will be on her. I wouldn't come right out and say "your being cheated on", I'd somehow ease into it. Ask her how things are going between them and say you are concerned about something. Then slowly ease into mentioning that you heard or know from sources that you don't believe he is being honest with you and may be seeing other girls. If shes a true friend, she won't get mad at you for this.

2006-10-20 00:56:50 · answer #1 · answered by daveypa22 4 · 0 0

The best thing to do is to tell her because in the long run, if you see his cheating continue and she finds out that you knew the whole time you could lose her friendship. Or you could confront the guy and tell him to tell her. This is a hard situation. Or you could set the guy up if you know for sure that he is cheating take your friend to the area where you think he'll be so she can see for herself. If not all cell phones have cameras snap a pic. Think of the situation as your own, wouldn't you want to know? Also the other girl she should know as well that she is being played.

2006-10-20 08:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by mlh2379 1 · 0 0

I would talk to him alone. Let him know that he has to straighten up or break up with your friend...be mean!!

As for your friend....I have always taken the position that I would not volunteer such hurtful information. That kind of information has a tendency to boomerang back on the person who volunteers it. So, although I will not volunteer it, I will answer any direct question truthfully. And I let the cheating person know that I will do exactly that. If they don't like it tough...then they need to change. What's in the past is past if you know what I mean. Good luck...

2006-10-20 08:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0 0

You need to tell her. If you are really her friend it is best to tell her now rather than dragging it out. You are in danger of losing her friendship if she finds out you kept it from her plus it will only hurt her more the longer it goes on. Just make sure you are there for her to pick up the pieces!

2006-10-20 07:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by claire 5 · 1 0

If you were in her situation would you want her to tell you? If you have her best interests at heart then tell her. The longer she's with him the more hurt she'll be when she does find out. How would you look if she found out from someone else and found out you knew and didn't tell her?

2006-10-20 08:05:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

You should totally tell her. I mean, don't bluntly say it like "He's cheating on you" but tell her that you found out a little something and you're wondering if she knew about it. Try not to let it all go at her at once. It's like being hit by a truck.

2006-10-20 08:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Michi 2 · 0 0

If she's a close friend I say tell her. Later on down the road if she finds out herself, and finds out you knew it will kick you in the behind. But if she's just an acquaintance of yours i'd say don't tell her. It's not really any of your business, and chances are she'll stay with the jerk anyway.

2006-10-20 08:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by penelope 3 · 0 0

Just tell her. The longer it takes for her to find out the more hurt she will be. And if you don't tell her and she finds out you knew about it she might get mad at you for not telling her. If the shoe was on the other foot would you want her to tell you if this was happing to you?

2006-10-20 07:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by Alan J 2 · 0 0

She's your friend and I know you don't want to hurt her but why are you letting someone else hurt her? Do her a favor and tell her the truth!

2006-10-20 08:00:21 · answer #9 · answered by kelley1031 2 · 0 0

It will upset her, but think how you would feel if it was the other way around?
You would feel betrayed if your friends knew all along and they did not tell you. So if you just leave it and she finds out eventually (and she will) she'll be upset with you too. It's hard, but just do it, ok?

2006-10-20 08:09:17 · answer #10 · answered by mortierella 2 · 0 0

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