>i'm already 19yr. old turning 20 this yr. 3rd yr. college BSN. & yet my father disagree withe me for having a boyfriend!!! and damn!!! it really embarassed me. everytime i remember what he said to me.
>i confronted my mom about this guy and thanks god she agreed with me.
>I confronted my dad and tell about my bf because i really love this guy and i want them to meet him and know him more. unfortunately, my feelings suddenly crushed in. because of what my dad say's "that he dont want my b.f because he has a g.f" which is not true. because that guy has been so honest to me since i met him. because he didnt hesitated to tell me everything even his top secret that even his old friends and pals dont knew about it.
>my bf is confused because of that, but he dont want to leave me behind. he just want to be with me forever. and same thing with me.
>i asked him to continue our relationship and fight for whatever problem we may encouter and thanks GOD he agreed with me..
2006-10-20 00:24:40 · 12 answers · asked by marieclaire_2123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The only problem I can see is that your dad doesn't want you to have a boyfriend, that is his problem to deal with not yours.
You'll just have to disagree with your dad and if you can get the best grades possible and be happy & healthy then in time I'm sure he will come round, he may be worried you will get pregnant & as he sees it ruin your life or he may not be able to handle the fact that you are not a little girl anymore but a grown up.
If all else fails at nearly 20 you're old enough to live on your own I'd been married for 2 years when I was your age
2006-10-20 00:31:33 · answer #1 · answered by madamspud 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
3 questions
Where did your father get the idea that your boyfriend already has a girlfriend?
Why didn't you even consider that your father (whom we assume also loves you) was right? Seems a funny objection for him to invent.
Why did you have to 'confront' them and not simply introduce him as a friend? Confrontation seems to suggest that somewhere within you there might be the tiniest feeling that either your father may be correct or that you already thought that there was something about your boyfriend of which they would not approve.
I can't help but think that if your boyfriend was genuinely fond of you he would try to talk to your parents and win their approval rather than alienate you from them.
It may simply be that your father thinks you are in danger of losing the future which you are obviously working hard at college to achieve.
At the end of the day you are the only one who can decide what is best for you. Good luck!
2006-10-20 00:44:52 · answer #2 · answered by Carol M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must listen to your loving / caring and concerned about your safety & happiness . You have to wait another few years , till you get a good job and able to think and judge people . Your same dad will be there to cheer you up for your deciesion . At this young age , you can not make out good or bad , you just want to enjoy and freek out . Isn't it .
2006-10-20 00:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow ur heart but don't try to push your father off because he may have a point and it may some out to you later on down the line.
2006-10-20 03:23:46 · answer #4 · answered by dagirl10149 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know sometimes parents knows best! its not that i agree with them not liking your bf but if they have some reservatons about him and you really like him and he likes you too, for the sake of harmony why don't you tell your bf to help you to make your parents like him, too! sometime also you need an outside opinion when it comes to affair of the heart because as they say love is blind which i don't belive in but what i believe in is that love don't see everything especially negative things, if you know what i mean! you can only have a set of parents in your lifetime, you know so be cautious and very careful about fighting with them, no matter what their opinions are, they are still your only parents in your lifetime! good luck to you! think!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-20 00:34:18 · answer #5 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your Dad may have this correct. Guys will tell you whatever they think you want to hear even telling you their "top secret", which ususally is a lie. So listen to Dad. It may hurt a while, but you'll see he was right.
2006-10-20 00:35:13 · answer #6 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, ask urself this question first: in whose hands r the reins of ur life held? figure that out n u'v got urself made. In som cases, however, adults can b the experienced ones (after all, they r adults) and maybe taking their advice wouldn't b such a foolish thing to do...u gotta go according to the circumstance prevailing, i guess...rt now, u just hve to listen to ur own heart first...
2006-10-20 00:30:44 · answer #7 · answered by lapazoola 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
follow whats in your heart and in your head but dont dismiss totally what your parents are saying as they love you and only want the best for you. Try to reason with your father but dont fall out with him, maybe its would be best to agree to differ at this stage and see how the future pans out
2006-10-20 00:28:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
look my advise for u is if u really love him then follow ur heart but if u want to have sex with him then u r wrong
if u love him try to avoide have sexual relation with him because some guys wants from girls only sex and appears like love them and they actually not
2006-10-20 00:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by micho 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you will always be daddys little girl. therefore dad is never going to truely approve any choice re: a man for you. follow your heart.
2006-10-20 00:39:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋