why don't my parents care?

Question

it's like... when ever i'm crying they just shrug and walk away without even asking if i'm ok. my mother(whom i live with) leaves my brother and i at home for weeks whilst she goes on business trips. she cut off all our connections to my older sister. when i was in hospital with cancer they didn't even bother to visit me. my little sister recently committed suicide and last week at a family conference my mother turned to me and asked "where is faiten? late again? will u go retrieve her?"... i ran out of the room crying and ended up violently sick, my brother said she merely shrugs and continued to discuss new wine recipe for the family company. my father made me scrub the skin off my arm to get the writing off so that i would not embarrass him when his clients came to dinner. they know these things hurt me (physically and emotionally) but they just, don't care. why? ...do they hate me?

i've already seen almost all the councellors in the district, but alot of them wont see me anymore because i caused them too much stress when i was younger... i had an issue because i believed i was more intelligent than my brother...

and my school councellor is not much help... she smacks my head into the desk and says "quit bein all depressed fool"

Answer 1

So sorry your life is like this. It's a shame really that some parents have kids and are bad parents, while some what could be great parents cannot have kids at all.

First, talk to a school counsellor, your principal, favourite teacher, trusted friends mom, or if you want to go all the way to find help, go to the police or someone that you can trust 100%. Keep doing this until someone wakes up to the point that you are being emotionally abused.

But always remember to keep your head held high. It's your parents fault they are this way, NOT YOURS. You are doing nothing wrong and I hope you always believe that.

Answer 2

The parent has all the responsibility. The parent is expected to care for the child and the child's well-being throughout his/her lifetime. If the parent is just "trying to get to the magic 16 marker when I don't have to deal with them anymore", then there is something wrong with the parent. Have you ever been a child? If so, what do you remember about your thoughts and concerns? I'll remind you...the concerns of a child go as far as this: "I hope I don't get in trouble for something. And I hope there's ice cream in the fridge". Don't overcomplicate a child's "feelings". There aren't really any. The child needs a parent for security and food and so on...and that's really it. If the child is overly-rebellious, to the point where they are flat-out disrespectful to the parents, then the child needs to go to a military academy or join a martial arts school or something that will scare the hell out of them and teach them the importance of discipline and integrity.

Answer 3

Boy, this is a tough question to answer. I feel sad for you and your brother. You need to get help from a school counselor or a close relative. Your parents may be having some problems of their own right now, and they might be in denial or have some kind of mental disorder. If you feel it may be better for you to go live with your older sister, than by all means find her and do it. I don't agree with family's separating, unless their is some serious reasons. Like your life being at stake. If you lost one sibling to suicide, than this is serious. But don't forget your brother in the matter. He also needs you too. At least get out for a while, until your family gets the needed help to save themselves. I am sorry for your grief and pain. I don't think your parents hate you, they just need to learn how to be a better parent. Try to get them to go to therapy with you. I really hope things work out for you. Pray for help, God will listen to your cries, even when no one else does.

Answer 4

I don't think that they don't care, they are probably just stressed and frusterated with all the pain and suffering from your sister and you had cancer...I couldn't ever image having my kids go through that I'd probably die. Usually when people are scared they push away those that love them the most. I suggest you see a counselor and when you get to the point you feel strong enough to talk to your parents have them join you for a session so your counselor can be there to help give you support and strenghth. Don't worry pain takes a long time to heal but it can and will be done. Keep your chin up.

Answer 5

If Faitin is your sister that died then your mother is in need of psychological assistance. I would speak to a school councilor about how you have been treated and see what they can do for you. When you were being treated for cancer and your parents did not come to the hospital were you given a social worker? If yes then contact the social worker. I don't know anything about Australian social services but I am sure you can find help there.
Good luck

Answer 6

There are things that the parental love can never be explained. Why don't u ask urself if there's something wrong with you? Be strong in dealing with life for it is thru one's strength that you'll become more responsible and mature. From then, you won't be needing so much attention, it will be the other way around...

Answer 7

Being aparent I will normally think maybe they have thier resons but in this case I 'm not getting it .Just very selfish ,please learn frome this and be great parents to your children thier is no greater honor than that.( i have raised my kids by myself and had many hard times my kids are al teenages and above 3 boys and thier is nothing I would trade for raising them) Be a great parent when you have your own.

Answer 8

Sorry to tell you, but you got bad parents. To really asnswer your question, You and your sibling/s And parents needs to go see a shrink, Sorry to hear that your sister passed away,

Answer 9

i would say that they hate you but soiside is not the answer because you can always find someone who loves you. i thank that they think you are just a left over potatoe sack that no one cares about but you get in the way so they have to move you. how old are you? email me!

Answer 10

try talking with your sister to see if you can go live with her until things get better pray that they do you and your bother support each other