but the boy come out with so many problems? He can build you an entire computer and fixed anything that has to do with them, but has no common sense. He is 23 a genious, very high I.Q. but doesn't know how to deal with normal every day things. He is the one that looks like me and acts like me. But the Doc tells me he is not really 23 yet. He is like 17 in his mind. Where did I go wrong?
2006-10-20 00:11:27 · 23 answers · asked by Boricua Born 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am not complaining but this child is my 3rd and he bipolar and schizopreniac. I know I am blessed to have him, but I just dont know how to help him. He gets in trouble with the law and to help him now I am trying to find a mental hospital, so he can go there instead of jail or prison, he trust everyone.
2006-10-20 00:33:35 · update #1
repeat after me.....IT IS NOT MY FAULT! you are blaming yourself for something you had NO control over, and still don't. I know as a mother you want to protect him, but you can't protect him forever. You need to let him be a man. He WILL get in trouble, that's what they do, is it your fault NO. I'm sure you are a caring mother or you wouldn't be asking this question, but really, all you can do is see to it that he takes his medications, (if possible) and let him learn from his own mistakes! Good Luck!
2006-10-20 15:35:49 · answer #1 · answered by conniechung 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he has been diagnosed with those diseases, then you would know the answer to those questions. Those diseases are clinically rejected in society because of the inability to function in normal society, but very interesting-they function higher cognitively. But I don't think this is the case-I think your son is building the wrong path because he's choosing to. He's 23, an adult, and can make his own decisions. At this time, there is nothing that involves you. That should have been asked years ago. Cut him out of your life(let him know you still love him, but his behavior is unacceptable) until he can make better choices for him self. As far as different from other children in the family-well nuture plays just a part of society-there are environmental and genetical influences. My two brothers, one sister, and I all came out completely different as well. Relax and stand firm with your relationship with him. Good luck.
2006-10-20 03:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
One way or another he does need professional help. This is not uncommon and causes real problems for families. Don't blame yourself at all. We are not all the same even twins are not exactly alike.
He may need medication to alter the chemical balance of his brain some. This is a big help to many. You will Need a qualified doctor to determine the type and amount of medication.
It may be that he will never be able to take responsibility for himself.
Ask your doctors and any other person you can think of that may be able to tell you where to meet other parents with children having these problems. There are many out there. Trading ideas and questions does help.
2006-10-20 00:47:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that anyone can have thier own special things to give to the world and sometimes people have things that are not the socially accepted skills you need to cope with life.
I personally have always found life difficult to cope with and just getting to do everyday things can be a strain.
It is possible for life to come along and present you with problems you never expected on top of that and someone can have all the talent in the world and it might not seem to help.
I think you should encourage him for being special and maybe one day he will be able to produce something that surprises everybody
2006-10-20 00:15:06 · answer #4 · answered by malcolmg 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A very painful thing for you to reveal but guess what you didnt go wrong!
You have a miracle child!
Children like these are of a special nature when you least expect it the child genius will sya something that will make you wanna cry because its so normal and unlike him!
He might not have the maturity of his age but its in there!
Your a lucky woman hes a healthy and inteligent boy!
2006-10-20 00:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by Kate Sexy Legs 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, bipolar disorder and schizophrenia are thought to be genetic disorders. the thinking currently is that some kind of trauma (which could be an illness, for example) triggers the genetic predisposition to these mental conditions.
without the mental illness as a factor, some parents do treat boys more harshly than they treat their girls, and in other families, boys are allowed to be unaccountable for their behavior, whereas the girls are not. such conditions would create an irresponsible boy in a family of responsible girls.
apart from all that, being like 17 is pretty typical for a lot of 23 boys.
2006-10-20 01:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by cassandra 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh honey, I'm SURE it is nothing you did. There are so many reasons why people are different. Your son obviously has a gift and it is one that will get him very far in this technologically driven world. If there is nothing you can do to help him then you can't beat yourself up. If he looks like you, he's more likely to be the opposite personality of you. It's not your fault. Just love him, embrace his gifts and try to steer him in the right direction where you can.
2006-10-20 00:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by sticky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For you to worry like this that means you are a wonderful mother dont worry you have done nothing wrong look at all the other kids they turned out the way you wanted them to.But you can have everyone be the same,some kids are just special i think your son is special person give him time he will make you proud
2006-10-20 00:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by sadia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some very intelligent people have no common sense, Einstein couldn't tie his own shoes, so they say...why would you think that you went wrong? Shouldn't you be thankful that he has a very high I.Q.? Everyone is different, be thankful instead of complaining, maybe you're not intelligent enough to understand that your child is just as good as the others!
2006-10-20 00:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by melanie 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You didn't go wrong. Does your son have autism? Is he just socially and emotionally delayed? If he is just immature, give him time...girls mature so much faster than boys. Ask the doctor why he says your son is mentally 17...it may be a condition that he cannot grow out of.
2006-10-20 00:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋