2006-10-20 00:05:19 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
read or at least google these books:'Party of One" by Anneli Rufus and "The Highly Sensitive Person" by Elaine Aaron
2006-10-20 00:08:48 · answer #1 · answered by kardea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push yourself to talk. At first start by listening, but don't think about being shy while you're listening. I'm sure you have an opinion about discussions around you! You can start from saying when you agree with someone. One more little think that helps is smiling at people when you like them or when they do something you approve. After a while of small things to make you more extrovert things will seem easier, but keep in mind that you will have to make a big step at some point when you feel ready. And one last thing, what is it that bothers you most? that you may say something wrong? Everyone says more wrong things than right ones, who cares? Is it other people's opinion you care about? Think that if you do nothing their opinion won't be the best possible either and after all if you say something and someone else talks to you badly then it's they who should feel bad, not you as you'll only have expressed your opinion
2006-10-20 07:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by speedy eleni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever wanted to become more confident about yourself? Be more outgoing and attract the girls/guys you want?
Steps
Get up early every morning and get some exercise! Do a short run for 15 minutes. Make sure you run both fast and slow, this will give you both stamina and muscles (especially thighs!) Then do push-ups and sit-ups. When you are doing push-ups make sure you do them with wide and narrow arm lengths (Men - this will give you nice neck muscles and back muscles!) Do at least 15 repetitions.
Eat healthy by planning healthy meals and stick to it! For breakfeast you should have fruit, cereal, and a big glass of water. Plan your meals daily based on healthy food. Whenever you are invited to dinner make sure you just eat a little of everything!
Jot down in your diary/journal of coming parties. Attend at least two parties a per month, this will give a opportunity to meet lots of potential dates! Make sure you talk to at least two people you don't know at each party.
Get some serious rest once a week; give yourself a day off, no matter how busy you are. This day-off will re-energize you both mentally and physically. You might want to go the gym and work out for several hours and go to sleep early. This will relieve any stress and relax both body and mind.
Do not expect to be perfect all the time, make goals that you can reach realistically. Use self talk to cheer yourself up and boost your self confidence. Each day say aloud "My self-confidence is growing more and more!"
Make goals for your self, but make them smallish and realistic so you can easily reach them. Always compliment yourself!
Do the steps above and sooner or later you will become more confident than ever!
Tips
Practice smiling at people you pass on the street, in the grocery store, or even when you're driving around.
2006-10-20 07:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by heatherlynnmorrow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's kind of sad. To tell you the Truth, everybody in the world have some kind of confident problem, talking problem.
All I can say, sit down make a list of good things that you like to do, then go over it and decide witch one you are very good in. Take one and start to develop it, choose wisely.
Be yourself, by saying that I mean work on you bad habits change them to good and work on your good habits, talents, because you do have talents!
Look around you, the people that looks perfect, happy, nice they also have problems, not just you. A beautiful girl can feel shes very fat, although shes gorgeous!
What I'm trying to Say, stand-up, fight for yourself in a good way and remember everybody is equal.
Lack of confident:
1. Check Wat's the cause, maybe your overweight, you can change it!
2. Maybe somebody is breaking you down, you can change it!
3. Maybe you just stay at home, don't social, you can change it!
Don't waist any more time! Start living today! B Yourself!
2006-10-20 07:34:33 · answer #4 · answered by confussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like u, shy, feeling inferior to all creatures out there and having a hard time speaking up. What i did to get it out there was to start with a group study among my best friends. Then slowly I joined the library club. (not many join that, so it was a safe go). Then I turned to debate and later Speech club. Now I am always taking risks, although my guts says 'warning! warning! Conscious alert!' You just have to push urself or else u wont get anywhere.
2006-10-20 07:10:28 · answer #5 · answered by IcyBlue2412 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear You knw even i am very shy and i always think that my answer is worst and i do things worst but it is not truth. I make mistake only when i delay bcosa of shy.
I have noted many people that they always amke thier arguement even though they are stupid. Yes in the same way a sales executive sells his very stupid product only because of his confident .
Dont hestitate to deliver about your comments.
i dont knw about your age and wat you do .
If you are studying then you try to participate in cutural programs. Prepare Urself and submit.
You knw i am a very quite boy ,but when i was given a chance in a debate ,i jsut proved my self.
So unless you hesitate you will step backwards . Now you can post your comments in this yahoo answers and you can meet lot of people in chats etc etc. so these are all your training classes .
If you want you can also keep in touch with me
i will jst add yo to my note list .
bye
2006-10-20 07:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by biker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry ! Just Belive in you are better than other and minimize like them !
I was like you ! But i talk and communicate with other mens.
2006-10-20 07:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by mdo72000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same problem here baby , i need an answer too !!?
2006-10-20 07:08:56 · answer #8 · answered by xXblacknwhiteXx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋