why is it that your parents telll you they love you and all that but then when you try to tell them something really important that might change the way you virew the world/life they deither dont wanna know or dont beleive you.
2006-10-19 23:52:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your parents love you know matter what. But I think we've all been taught the rights and wrongs in life and have our beliefs how things should be. Sometimes when it's out of character of our beliefs we tend to not listen or try to understand what another person is trying to tell us.
2006-10-19 23:57:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, my first thought was that they know they might not have tomorrow to tell you that they love you. After all we don't know what each day holds until it passes.
....But with the not wanting to listen to you or believe you I would say from experience that sometimes our parents don't want to or just don't realize that we are growing up, and that we can make our own choices in life, be they spiritual, moral, or other wise. Its hard for them. However, we were given free will for a reason, and the fact of the matter is whatever the decision is and whatever choice we make, we are held responsible for our self. So if you live your life based on what someone else tells you, whether its right or wrong you are the one held accountable.
2006-10-20 08:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by SunnyD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How lucky you are that your parents tell you they love you all the time. My girls are 29 and 30 and very few conversations, either on the phone or in person, ends without us telling each other that we love them. Parents have a tendency to be wrapped up in grown-up things and fail to realize that what you are saying is important to you. Since it appears you are very young, your parents need to listen to what you have to say and then tell you what they've learned through their experience. One of the most important jobs of a parent is to guide our children in what we believe is the right direction concerning world/life. These issues are new to you but your parents have been on this earth a lot longer than you. Maybe start your questions or ideas with "what do you think about this?" You have to pick the right time to ask a question or give your opinion also. If they are busy or involved, it's not the time to expect them to really think about what you are saying. Bear in mind also that we may be parents but we don't know everything. We learn with you also. Your parents have the foresight to tell you they love you. Now they need to learn to listen. Good luck.
2006-10-20 08:39:37 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question. As a parent I often find that I have the urge to say 'I love you' when I'm feeling a little guilty about the lack of time or attention I've given them. I don't mean to, its just more an unconscious thing. (Andh sometimes its genuinely for no other reason than warm strong feelings in my heart)
This made me question what the statement means anyway. Its far better to show your love by the way you treat them (including taking them seriously, listening, spending time with etc), otherwise words are meaningless, you're dead right.
2006-10-20 07:00:24 · answer #4 · answered by Trin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure your parents love you but sometimes parents can get distracted by all the little things in life. If you really want to talk about something important, ask them to spare you some time so you can sit down and tell them what you want to say and they can give you their full attention.
2006-10-20 07:03:21 · answer #5 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I guess we're really lucky to have parents that tell us they love us.
I've thought a bit about why they don't seem to want to accept some things... If I imagine having a daughter and seeing her grow up, I would invest all my own ideas of what is going to make her happy and I might have a hard time saying to myself that actually they have to make their own (sometimes wrong) decisions and that they will think differently to me about some things as well. Also, I guess we all grow up in a 'different world' to our parents and so a lot of the things we do are bit a of shocker to them.
2006-10-20 07:14:07 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They love you but it's hard for them to see you growing away from them ... that's what I found. Wait till you move out, then they'll listen to you differently.
Oh, and some things parents are better off learning about gradually, so perhaps you should give them information piecemeal, so allow them to digest it in bits - easier for them as well as for you in the long term. Inflicting something huge on somebody is a bit hard ... gradual understanding leading to gradual acceptance is much much better than a big wall put up to contain the deluge, don't you think?
Best of luck.
2006-10-20 07:01:53 · answer #7 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they take you for granted. Like you take them for granted. We're all only human!
We think we've got plenty of time to work out our relationships but actually, the time to listen just slips by.
Be assured they do love you - they're just too busy/impatient to show it.
Well done, though, for trying to communicate with them.
2006-10-20 07:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont knock it, im 24 and i have yet to hear it from them, Its the one thing i would love to hear. I have a 23month old little girl and i tell her that every night. There all set in there ways i guess
2006-10-20 07:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by Brad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you're a parent you'll understand! i have an uncontrollable urge to tell my 2 year old daughter but i'm trying to curb it! They probably skirt issues with you because they don't want to believe their little one is all grown up.
2006-10-20 06:56:04 · answer #10 · answered by Andromeda Newton™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋