i realy want to tell her but iam affraid
2006-10-19 23:41:38 · 19 answers · asked by beaverman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just keep enjoying her company, any thing else will only lead to problems
2006-10-19 23:45:11 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Comment 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen this quite often. Its a common feeling to be attracted to your in-law. It's normal to have this attraction, but you're a human being, with the ability to make choices. This attraction will pass. What will not pass is your guilty conscience. If you have sex, it can't be undone. I could guess that you've had just a few experiences with love. Believe me, there's a lot of other women out there - LOTS. You make think now that she's the only one for you but she's not. What is it that you're afraid of? Is it merely that you fear her rejection or is more than that - like fear of facing your wife once she finds out? Or your brother or sister or mama or daddy? Think with your big head, not your little one. I know she's cute, and you enjoy her company, but is it worth it? Think this through long and hard buddy. I only say this because I've been there myself and passed through it thank God! Whatever you decide, (and remember, it is a choice) I'm sure it will be the right thing for you. I wish you the best. Good luck.
2006-10-20 00:24:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My humble request to you ...PLEASE DONT DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT ..!!!!!
See, the girl is already taken... and any such action from you will lead to destruction of relationships between your family ...
Think about it ...
If you tell her then either she'll accept or reject ...
If she rejects (which I guess she will, coz shes a nice women as per your description) then you'll loose her trust and the decent companionship you enjoy with her. Plus if your brother gets to know, youre screwed big time..
However, if she accepts, then you guys are actually cheating your brother .. plus shes not a right woman to have married your brother and without any good reason leaving him for you ... If this happens this would surely be because of lust or that she has confused your relationship...
Theres a very negligible chances that this can really be love ... but even if it is, ... it will be very difficult to walk this path ... imagine the amount of turmoil your brother and family will go thru for no fault of theirs...
Dude !!.. life has many options still left ... there are thousands of girls out there waiting for guys like you , who enjoy good company and are nice enough to get married to... Just search yourself a similar one (as your sister-in-law).. Or better ask your sister-in-law to search someone for you ...
Dont destroy the sanctity of your relationship with her... Remember shes your "_______"-in-law.
2006-10-19 23:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by Frank_walker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer something EVER "merely occurs. you're making extensive wakeful judgements despite the fact that if or to no longer feed your delusion. shame on her sister for having such disrespect for her sibling. think of with the great head for a 2nd. Why could you prefer to be with somebody who could deal which includes your spouse like that. How could you sense if the shoe grew to become into on the different foot. in case you do not have a brother then think of a few random individual. Her sister is feeding off of your projections and you're projecting which you're receptive to her advances.
2016-11-24 19:30:30 · answer #4 · answered by eckhardt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she feel the same way abt u? don't juz jump into it without knowin her feelings for u cos it will make things really awkward for ur own sis/bro n it might develop some tension within the family too... unless u r very sure that she is falling in love with u too.. then at least ur love is reciprocated and it will bea easier to be a couple in front of the rest of the family.....
2006-10-19 23:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by SyaKiRa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love knows no boundary my friend.but the feeling shud always be both sided.u love her she love u, then where the trouble lies.As far as the society is concerned ,try to persuade them .Assert ur view frankly and logically.Last but not the least,try to be in such a position that u r not afraid to ask for her hand to her family members.
Tell her straight away,otherwise u may regret it later.
2006-10-19 23:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly,get a life!people have lost all sense of respect for the family unit and values thats why we cant even recognize a family member from just being in love with anyone else.pls respect yourself enough to give the same for your in law.its like asking if incest is alright.
2006-10-20 00:04:07 · answer #7 · answered by xzwnemono1stop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go ahead
but there r soem bad circumstances later
love is not sure
u can fall in love anytime
so if u love her tell her
its ur rite
but its quite painful for ur wife or fiancee or gf!!
see i'll advise u to do it for yourself and for the sake of everybody
cuz if u don't it will ruin not only ur life but ur wife's life and everybody's life!!if ur wofe finds out later then she'll hate u all her life
tell her!!
2006-10-19 23:52:06 · answer #8 · answered by Gamesr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay...the key word is "in-law" that means that one or both of you are married. Unless she becomes your "ex sister-in-law" then leave it alone. dont be a cheater and/or dont encourage her to cheat...that will only make the thing that you two might have go badly.
2006-10-19 23:47:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to what the other replies are saying... seriously, its a bad idea to try and pursue anything there. it may be hard, but try not to dwell on the feelings. if you tell yourself your in love, then you will be, so be careful not to fall into that mindset.
2006-10-19 23:51:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋