I've just written a letter to my grandfather and i've talked about me for quite a lot of it, about school and things happening in my life etc.
Only at the end have i really asked how he is, and I'm about to talk about the weather? Is that not incredibly rude and embarrassing? To make things worse i've written "I'm sorry i've rambled on about me for so long, it's just theres been quite a lot to say!" - insulting?
Help me!!!
2006-10-19 23:31:25 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
thanks to everyone who answered, you've been really helpful
2006-10-19 23:43:12 · update #1
I don't think its rude.
I think your Grandfather would like to hear what goes on in your life!
I don't expect he would enjoy a letter full of questions about himself really.
2006-10-19 23:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Amanda 6 · 8⤊ 0⤋
Your Grandfather will be happy to get a letter from you and even happier that you feel like you can tell him about the stuff that is going on in your life. Everyone likes to get personal lettersfrom the people we love. If you are really feeling like the letter is one sided, try including a "remember when " story at the end of it. Something funny or nice that happened while you were visiting them, that is another thing we all like to do is "remember when" Sounds like you are a very thoughtful and sweet person.
2006-10-20 03:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by pickigirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's so funny, I often feel a little rude when I write letters too (for the exact same reason)!
The answer is no, it's not rude. People like to hear what's going on with you - *especially* grandparents. Writing is becoming a lost art, so I think the fact that you took the time to write him a letter is really wonderful, and he'll love it! It's normal in letter-writing to report what's going on with you, and ask how the other person is doing, so you're completely fine.
Oh, and your apology at the end is fine, too. It shows how thoughtful you are. He will love the letter, trust me.
2006-10-20 03:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by locolady98 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your grandfather is far more interested in you than in his state of health or the weather. The fact that you bothered to write at all is an indication that you care about him and are anxious to brighten his day. That is really what matters! I don't think that your apology is at all rude and embarrassing. I have all sorts of friends who write to me catching up on news and then say things to the effect of: "Well, that's enough about me. How about you?" and I don't take offence, as it's a perfectly human way to invite a response from the person being written to.
The lovely thing about you is that you care so much about this. You are far more critical of yourself than your grandfather is of you. What counts to him is that you wrote. He'll treasure that letter and read it over and over again. Write again to him soon!
2006-10-20 02:09:08 · answer #4 · answered by Doethineb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when you said rude letter, I thought you meant you had said all sorts of mean and insulting things to him.
Although I was taught at school to start by asking the recipient of your letter about how they were because it was more polite than 'me, me, me!', I am sure that he will be more than thrilled to get a letter packed with chatty news about you, and he will probably read it over and over, not just the day he receives it but the next day and the day after that too!
Unless he's a 'me, me, me!' person himself he probably won't even noticed you've asked about him at the end rather than at the beginning.
In any case you've done the right thing spending your time writing to him, letting him know that in the midst of your busy life you still have time for him.
If he was ill or something and you were seriously worried about him, you know that that's how your letter would have started.
2006-10-19 23:47:55 · answer #5 · answered by used to live in Wales 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if your typing it, put some of the questions you ask him at the top of the letter. Perhaps start each paragraph with the stuff about yourself with an opener question to him. Does that make sense? Its difficult with letters really, because they are about you and what you have been up to. I am sure your grandfather will like to know all the information and as long as you make him feel like you are thinking of him it will all be ok...
2006-10-19 23:35:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody's right, stop worrying! Your Grandad will be pleased that you took the time and trouble to write to him, and will enjoy hearing about everything that you've been doing.
He's much rather get a letter like that than none at all; or a short one that tells him nothing.
Reading a letter like this is nearly as good as having the person with you; with the advantage that he can re-read it later.
I think you've been thoughtful in writing to your Grandad and including him in your life. Plus, its pretty standard to put 'how are you' at the start of a letter, its a standard opening.
Yours is a personal letter. Having that at the end will invite him to reply; as if you were having a conversation with him. You wouldn't say 'how are you' then dive in with a load of stuff about yourself; you'd listen. This way you are inviting him to respond.
2006-10-19 23:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by sarah c 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, thats fine. Its gret to receive letters and it won't occur to him that you asked about him at then end. The fact that you wrote the letter means you were thinking of him to start with.
It rude to ask about someone and then not be interested in the response. So what would you do in a letter ? Start by asking how he is and then wait for his reply before writing a second letter saying how you are. A letter is great in a converstional style, sounds like you've done just fine....i wish someone other than the bank would write to me !
Don't worry about it.
Although I always start by asking how they are. I learnt this from being excluded from my granddads multi-million pound will because i forgot to do it once.......only joking.
2006-10-19 23:38:01 · answer #8 · answered by Michael H 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's rude. When I get letters I love reading them and hearing all about what's going on in that person's life. It's usually the reason someone's writing you right? They want to let you know what's going on with them and usually ask once how you are doing.
2006-10-20 01:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. Nita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you did ask how he was and that is the thing. i think grandfathers are the best, i loved mine so very much and based on my experience, i would say that your grandpa probably loved how you took time out to write to him and tell him what's going on in your life. that you are one of those people who communicate with your grandpa is laudable in itself. i don't think its insulting at all but if it bothers you that much, why not write another letter or better yet send a card that says it all and add a little note saying how lucky you are to have someone like him and that you love him or make your own. whatever works with you. i hope this helps.
2006-10-19 23:45:43 · answer #10 · answered by shang1253 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is rude to start a letter off going straight into full flow about yourself and your own problems, you should always start a letter off by asking them how they are and what things they have been doing in their life since the last time you were in touch, its lovely to get a letter off someone, especially when they are just as interested in your life as they want you to be in theirs, rip the letter up and start again, give your granddad something to smile about as well as just been proud of you.
2006-10-20 02:14:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋