My problem is the following
I have been dating my girlfriend for four years by now. I really love her, but unfortunatly she left me 1.5 years ago for someone else. We are together again for one year by now, but I simply can't get over what happened, I keep having nightmares seeing her with that other guy, sleeping with him. I already tried a lot of things, meditaion before sleep, mantras, etc, but, they keep returning every night. Does anybody have some ideas how to cope with the nightmares?
thank you very much in advance
Robert
2006-10-19 22:46:11 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Hello Robert.
Seems like you still have to deal with your feelings.
You need to discuss your fears, pain, feelings of betrayal and abandonment with your girlfriend. Hopefully once you have acknowledged your emotions, you will be more at peace.
Time will be the best healer.
2006-10-19 22:56:05 · answer #1 · answered by tranquil 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Robert, have you have you discussed this with her. If not you should try that. It sounds to me like insecure in the relationship you have with her. Maybe it's a fear of her leaving you again. I'm not sure. I do know one thing though be insecure about anything is not healthy, so if that's it you should try to work through the problem quickly. It could lead to really ill affects. Your body could become sore from the stress your going through and that makes you both physically and mentally tired which is not healthy at all, and could lead to depression which could lead to a mental break down, or other serious health problems. Another thing you could do is to separate for a few weeks to see if it get better or worse. If it gets better, you may want to consider a break-up.
2006-10-20 06:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by durr_tee_durr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi Robert
Seems to me you are allot more concerned over her actions, and it is a big worry to you...
I see you do meditation and mantras, ever thought maybe someone is trying to tell you that its time to review your life with this lady ????
I would see it as a sign that maybe she hasn't or will not ever change and you will have to either forget it totally and trust her 10000% or leave her.
To me if you have split once the chances are the same problems will rear their dirty head again, and i think you deserve better .
If she is your soul mate she would of never cheated end of, so maybe you need to actually think about the bigger picture , meditations are great but sometimes we are shown the reality of things through meditation and not always what we want.
I say listen to your dreams and listen to your gut insistence as they will guide you to happiness....
Take care mate all the best....
Time to think of No 1 , you ....
2006-10-20 06:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by loulou777 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many time, (not all the time) your night dream has strong relationship of what you think both conciously, and unconciously.
Besides you might have a fear of her cheating on you, do you in everyday life worry about her? Like her health, future, safety, etc.
Or do you think of the happy things with her? Like getting married, or you love her more than any girlfriend you had before.
2006-10-20 06:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by davegesprek 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drink a bottle of vodka before going to bed!
2006-10-20 05:55:01 · answer #5 · answered by INC0GNIT0 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋