Whenever i am with my boyfriend and he hugs me, the only thoughts that are running through my head are 'get off of me' & 'please don't keep touching me' - what does that mean? That i dont wana be with him or just that he's too touchy feely?? He is a lovely guy and i do like him.
2006-10-19 22:23:08 · 31 answers · asked by ♥ Jodi ♥ Kaydi's Mummy ♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends.
Do you think "get off me" when he hugs you in public ?
If so don't worry about it. Lot's of people aren't keen on public displays of affection in public. It's like little boys who don't want to hold their mom's hand walking down the street anymore. They get embarassed.
However if you think this in private then you may need to have a chat about it. Either you don't REALLY like him (serious think about your relationship is needed at this stage)..
...or it reminds you of something that happened you in the past. Maybe a boyfriend or family member who gave you a hard time. If this is the case tell your boyfriend about it and tell him why you seem distant when he hugs you. He'll help you through.... or ...maybe you don't trust him. Do you have any reason to be suspicious of him ??
2006-10-19 22:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by specs appeal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the relationship is too close and touchy feely. I had those same thoughts before. I've come to the conclusion that it means you need to take a little time from each other. Not like take a break or anything. Just space out how often you see the guy. Too much of a good thing is a bad thing. MAke yourself miss him and you won't be feeling those thoughts in your head.
2006-10-19 22:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by sam kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my guess would be that you need time off... to think and evaluate the relationship. Most of the time ppl tend to fall out of love without knowing that they have and its not that you have found somebody else or bored but its a phase we go thru some time... and this usually happens to couples who have been together too long and too close that they become very comfortable with each other till the point of affection grows out... and everything else becomes a routine instead of a feelling... Like example saying I LOVE U.... most of the time it becomes a habit to say it when you say good nite or to end a phone converstation as it was a practice in the early stage of the relationship...
I hope this gives you an idea or something to think about but whatever it is do not make a harsh decision... think it thru and acted based on what your heart tells you too.. :) Good luck.
2006-10-19 22:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by Kurt.D.C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are feeling this way because your feelings are beginning to wither probably you are experiencing some sort of struggle in your life apart from him or he is pressuring you into something that you don't want to get into. Look at certain things like if you have feelings for someone else or you think that the relationship is going where you would like it to be. Also you could be a person as myself and hate when a guy likes being too clingy or touchy. And this is the strongest suspicions. Find out and relate your feelings to him so that you could continue your relationship with boundries and understanding. Good luck...
2006-10-19 22:33:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are going off him a bit!!I no that feeling when you dont want them to touch you and its really not a good sign!!Your genna have to have a think about how you are really feeling about him!Its horrible when youv got a really nice bloke and your feeling for him just change coz the last thing you probably want to do is hurt him!But sometimes we have to think about ourselves!! x
2006-10-19 22:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is smothering you way too much and you need space-you never stated that you love him but wanna be there with him- ----maybe your senses are kicking in and realize he might not be the "one " for you-- follow your heart and think of what this will lead to --good or bad it's up to you - we all go through this-- just take your time and be careful
2006-10-19 23:17:36 · answer #6 · answered by Ladder Captain-29 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. His not for you
2. Maybe you have to much sex( if you do)
3. Maybe you interested in Lady's. ( if you know your not, its fine)
4. Maybe you were abused in you childhood
5. Don't think you must be with him
6. Maybe there's somebody else
7. Maybe you want to take a brake for religious purposes.
There's a lot of maybes, but girl if you feel like that, tell him to chill, because there's a good reason way you feel like this, don't ignore!
2006-10-19 22:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by confussie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you ain't as tactile as he certainly appears? i too am untactile i'm pretty sure it goes back to childhood, if your parents are tactile then you most probably will be, i have learnt this through my partners family they are all tactile. When they visit they hug and kiss for what seems hours!! when they leave they repeat the whole damn thing again, it drives me nutz!!
2006-10-19 22:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you just need some space. I find myself wanted space from my Girlfriend, but it dosen't mean i don't want to break up with her. I just need some physicl space.
Just tell him that your not a touchy person and you need to get conforable. Don't tell him you need space becuse that will make him think you don't like him.. Just explan and be open with him and he will understand
2006-10-19 22:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by Tigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lovely & like - not the 2 words you would associate with wanting to be mawled by a guy!
2006-10-19 22:34:42 · answer #10 · answered by punkyboygirl_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋