....when honestly. truly, I know I need to start over, I want to start over, but Im obsessing, and shes the only thing on my mind that I care about?
I went through this with her last year. And earlier this year she made some changes in her life. She really made a positive move. And my mind went to the same place of guilt and pain for her. Dying inside to give of myself for her. But she hasnt changed enough. I rashly broke up with her. Supposedly it really hurt her. So, Im not touching it anymore. Im not calling. Its totally the right thing to do for the best of us. But now Im suffering the worst obsession over it. I am seriously considering seeing a therapist. I dont know if I can live without some sort of medication now. I want to move forward, but not looking forward to another year of being pathetic and depressed.
I tried meeting other women, but embarassingly my conversation always goes straight to the X when there is even the slightest intimacy established.
2006-10-19 22:19:49 · 3 answers · asked by jorluke 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it's a really good idea to talk to a therapist. I did the same thing, except that my ex broke up with me. My therapist helped me. It was a person I could talk to that wouldn't always put my ex down. When I talk to my friends, they always commented on the negative things, and that made me feel worse. Friends are good for some conversations, but if you want to really talk about stuff without all the negatives from the people that love you, a therapist is the best choice.
2006-10-19 22:25:57 · answer #1 · answered by Duper 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Medication will only suppress the depression or your mental faculties for the time being. This is a wishful thinking.
Now you have to clear the cobwebs in your mind. Go to a park nearby your place early in the morning when the dew is fresh. Walk on the grass barefoot from east to west and south to the north for five minutes. The chill travels through your body and upto the brain. This relaxes the body and the brain.
After 5 minutes sit on the grass facing east. The rising sun's rays have plent of positive energies which will pervade through your body. With the right hand's little finger close the left nostril of your nose and with the thumb the right nostril. Take the little finger off and breath in slowly and then close. Hold the breath for a few seconds and let it out through the right nostril slowly. Similarly do it other way too. Do this for five minutes.
After the breathing exercise close your eyes upto the extent that you will see the tip of your nose. Meditate for 5 minutes. During the meditation you can chant the name of your family deity mentally.
Carry out the above for five days. The cobwebs will be cleared. You will able to think positively and find a solution to your contrition.
2006-10-20 05:36:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't just "seriously consider" therapy. Just do it already. And get evaluated for medication as well. Yeah, sounds like you are obsessing, and you need help.
You need to just forget about women, all women, for the time being and concentrate on yourself. Find value in yourself again. Re-discover yourslef. Just accept that you are single and live it up for a few months. Yey, freedom!
Therapy can help. They can help you to chage your focus. They can help you find out why can't you move on, and then help you to move on.
2006-10-20 05:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋